Our gifts as women or females are;
– Influence
– Intuition (The ability to be spiritually sensitive, to read the one print in a given situation)
– Sexuality and reproductive abilities.

Man and woman were both created in the image of God, each was uniquely created to emphasize specific parts of God’s nature, with man leaning more toward the mind of God, and woman more toward the heart of God.
Keeping this in mind, we must realize that the man’s heart also seeks the same thing that God’s heart seeks – worship. Man’s foremost desire is for honour, which comes in the form of respect and submission.

God dwells in the midst of His praise, and it is clear that intimacy is born out of the worship experience. All barriers come down in the face of admiration. All defences are lowered as we enjoy the attributes of our beloved, and they in turn respond by drawing closer to us.

As our praises go up to God, He comes down, drawing closer and standing ready to pour out to us the desires of our hearts.
The same thing takes place in our earthly relationships. As we make men feel good about themselves, they pour more of themselves out to us.

True intimacy is birthed out of this sort of communion, and sexual intimacy is the highest form of mutual worship. It is the place of complete vulnerability and openness. Naked and unashamed; without pretence all is revealed and exchanged, and the two come away with a deeper knowing of one another, sharing a bond strong than before.

However, many of us have been made to believe that only near-nude dressing or vulgar language will evoke all these emotions from their husbands. But it’s also sad to note that sex is no longer given the value it deserves.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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Although he was also cursed, he was satisfied that the first phase of his mission had been accomplished. He had successfully caused man to forfeit his God-ordained authority upon the earth, severed the relationship between man and God, and drew battle lines between man and woman. Now he would always have the woman as an open door to get to the man, using her power of influence, her charms, her tongue and her body to penetrate the man’s exterior. We see a lot if that today – look at our dressing as females today. While we call it style and fashion, the enemy has carved a winning ploy through it.

And he would use the man against the woman to cast blame and inflict authority rather than inspire submission. He would use man’s confusion to victimise that which he should protect.

We now all stand as witnesses to the damage done in the Garden. We now have resorted to considering the idea that “men are from Mars and women are from Venus” in order to explain our differences. But, the truth is, no matter how clever the cliché, we are not from different planets. Our origin is much closer: We are part of one another with visible and invisible differences. We are made to benefit, not be at odds with one another.

Understanding and celebrating our differences instead of blaming and shaming is the first step we must take.
God did not design a man’s world but rather where man and woman work together in peaceful harmony, building one another up and promoting each other to good works – namely our God-given assignments on the earth – that others would observe the fruit of our lives and give glory to God.

We women lost it when we failed to recognise our own unique power. Instead we got locked into a power struggle that never existed from God’s vantage point. With everyone defending themselves, we are all losing ground.

It’s time to take off the boxing gloves and allow God to redistribute His first commission to us – man and woman both in power because of their status as complementary partners.

Let’s take a look at Eve again. We need to remember, in order to start feeling valuable and powerful, that man needs help. Man does not do well without woman. God has given each of us specific gifts in order to equip us to be a specific man’s helper. Your gifts may differ from that of another sister, and that’s only because she was created to assist a different type of man. This is why you must understand that not just any man will do for you, or vice versa.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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He knew God’s plan for man and he had to abort it at all costs. He knew from experience that rebellion was the one thing God would not allow in His presence. He had to cause a breach in Adam and Eve’s relationship with God.

He also knew never to underestimate the power of woman. He knew the effect she had on a man. This is why she became his target.
Instead of finding themselves like God, the only thing they really knew was that they were now ashamed of their nakedness.

Eve discovered something else: When man was ashamed, he became insecure. And when he became insecure, he became defensive and cast blame upon her. She became the enemy in the midst of his shame and failure.

Failure was a weight that Adam could not bear. It emasculated him in the presence of Eve. Because he submitted to the woman’s hand that held the fruit, he would now have to struggle for her respect and submission for the rest of his days.

The enemy, unlike what many of us have been made to believe, is very alert. His undulating moves and trickery are out to usurp us of our God given nature and ability. We need to redeem the time, save the younger generation for the times are evil.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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Proverbs 2:1 My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you,
2 making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding;
3 yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding,
4 if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures,
5 then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God

David taught Solomon the ways of the Lord, for no where else do you find the knowledge of God but from His word. No wonder Solomon was able to ask the Lord for wisdom to lead Israel.
When we teach our children the ways of the Lord, they will surely know what they need at every stage of life and ask of the Lord accordingly. Even in those forlorn situations, where they’d rather take their lives than live, His Word will direct them otherwise. But all this calls for us to be consistent in this God given responsibility.


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Proverbs 1:8 Hear, my son, your father’s instruction,
and forsake not your mother’s teaching,
9 for they are a graceful garland for your head
and pendants for your neck.

The word of the Lord brings life, and when we instruct our children according to His word, their lives will surely turn out beautiful. The words we instruct them become pendants on their necks if and only when they are in line with the word of God.

However, in this world where there is too much information; and not all is good for them, it’s our duty to not only be funnels that draw information to them but also seives that filter what they interface with as much as we can.


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For long, we have been told by the world how to take care of our children. However, the viable way is no longer good enough, it ought to be the right way. I understand that change has never been easy, but we have to make a choice; a decision. Now is the time, to take back the reins and take care of our children His way.

We cannot sit and watch as generations devoid of the knowledge of their Creator continue to make decisions that are not right yet affect us all. But they cannot raise themselves up, we have to take a stand; we have to do something. It is now or never.

Join  me as we discover from the manual (Bible) how to parent her children.




It was that time of the year that Milly wrapped presents and sent them all over the world to her scattered family and friends. It was a tradition she’d developed and one she wasn’t about to give up on despite it taking a toll on her, more so now that arthritis was gnawing at her bones. In a jiffy, or so you may say, Milly wrapped the last gift, ready to send them off to be delivered. Watching her, I wondered how after all these years, she kept up with the rigorous activity let alone remember the names of her recipients and their current residencies. That’s when I small machine that she used to scan sender addresses from the parcels she received from those she mailed each year. Oh, you have to give it up for her; her level of organization is amazing.
Jiffy, organize, delivery