RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 44 -Ministering to the Sexually Wounded

There are times when someone needs outside help………

If you are called to minister to the sexually wounded, here are a few things that may be helpful.

đŸŒčFirst of all, please understand there is never an “always”.

People are all so different; some are more sensitive; their personalities are different, etc. Other circumstances might also play into it.

We might have suffered from one incident of sexual molestation but otherwise were raised in a very loving, supportive home.

We may have suffered from sexual abuse, along with physical and emotional abuse; the damage will be much more severe. Those other areas will also have to be ministered to as well. Through the workbook, I have just shared some normal responses.

One of the most reassuring things for a person is to find out that their strange behaviours or feelings are normal because abnormal things happened to them.

It may not be normal for someone who has had their sexuality protected and has had no sexual damage. But for someone who has been sexually violated, their behaviour is normal. We call it normalizing the symptoms.

Many times people feel that they are crazy, out of control, something is really wrong with them.

Just finding out that there are a lot of other people with the same symptoms helps.

đŸŒčBe very sensitive when it comes to boundaries, especially physical ones. Ask if it’s okay for you to lay hands on them and pray for them. Get permission to hug them. Remember, we are there to help restore healthy boundaries.

đŸŒčBe careful and respectful as you go through their sexual history.

We look at the generations;

What known sexual sin or occult activity has there been?

Ask questions to jog their memory:
đŸŒ·Did Dad or anyone else ever have pornography around the house?
đŸŒ·Was there any talk of grandpa or anyone else in your lineage being unfaithful?
đŸŒ·Was mom open or closed about sexual issues?

Ask the Holy Spirit, to lead you as you ask the questions.

I [Amanda] interview their lives from birth until present just related to sexual history.

đŸŒčDon’t just fire off questions like an interrogator. Weave them into the conversation. Let them know that some of the questions might be difficult. Use wisdom and grace as you get the information you will need to minister to them.

Here are just a few sample questions (answers to certain questions often will lead to other questions, a good interview will actually create questioning as it goes):
đŸŒ»What do you feel is your first sexual memory?
đŸŒ»Did you ever see your parents express affection to each other? How?
đŸŒ»Did you play doctor or explore physically with other children?
đŸŒ»How old were you?
đŸŒ»If so, did you ever get in trouble?
đŸŒ»How did it make you feel?
đŸŒ»Were you ever sexually abused or molested as a child or teenager?
đŸŒ»Did anyone else ever touch you inappropriately during elementary school ages?
đŸŒ»Were you exposed to pornography? At what age?
đŸŒ»Did you ever masturbate? At what age? How often? Did the frequency increase? What about now?
đŸŒ»Did your parents discuss sex with you?
đŸŒ»How did you learn about sex?
đŸŒ»When were you first attracted to the opposite sex?
đŸŒ»What were your sexual experiences in high school?
đŸŒ»Who did you first have intercourse with and what were the circumstances?
đŸŒ»Did anyone ever reject you sexually?
đŸŒ»Did you have sex before marriage?
đŸŒ»How was your honeymoon night?
đŸŒ»How has sex been in your marriage?
đŸŒ»What is the average frequency now?
đŸŒ»Have you ever committed adultery?
đŸŒ»Have you ever had an abortion?
đŸŒ»Have you ever had problems with impotency or premature ejaculation?
đŸŒ»Are you able to have an orgasm?

đŸŒčSometimes you may have to explore a certain subject in much greater detail in order to minister to it. Let’s say it comes out in an interview that there was same sex contact in high school.

There will be different levels of ministry if that sexual contact was mutual masturbation, oral sex or sodomy.
They may say that they had an incestuous relationship with their brother. You may assume that was intercourse. You may have assumed wrong.
Ask the questions. You may discover it was touching each others’ genitals, there was no intercourse. That’s a difference.

đŸŒčYou will have to ask the questions to get the answers. You must get totally comfortable asking details. If you are relaxed and not embarrassed and ask in a professional manner, they will also be more comfortable.

If you are not yet comfortable, I encourage ministers and counselors, to practice saying sexual words and to role play interview questions.

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RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 43 – Ministering to sexual imprinting

In earlier posts, we looked at the effects of sexual imprinting. Now I would like to talk about ministering to that area.

While it’s not hard, only the power of God can do it. We can’t fix ourselves and we can’t fix each other. All we can do is tell God, “It’s broken.” And ask Him to fix it. That’s pretty simple.

đŸŒČFirst, we need to build faith. We began that in our very first post in the series. It takes faith to access the power ofGod. He will do all things according to our faith.

We need to pray in an atmosphere of faith. You may want to worship the Lord before you pray or declare scriptures. Set an atmosphere of faith and the presence of God. Always thank the Lord for what He has done.

đŸŒČMake sure you have forgiven EVERYONE involved. Unforgiveness can block our healingand stop us from receiving from the Lord. It doesn’t hurt to submit to one last examination by the Holy Spirit.

There is a sample prayer for sexual imprinting in the Assignment Section of this post. Don’t complicate what is simple.

The exact words are not as important as the faith and power of God to cleanse, purify, restore and make new. “Ask and ye shall receive.”

All we are doing is accessing in our sexuality what was already made ours through salvation. We are to be a new creation; all things are new; we have a right to total redemption and restoration.

Again, why would a loving God, heal other areas but leave something so essential undone? The answer is He wouldn’t.

Because of a puritan religious spirit that entered the church, we have not been able to talk to God about sexual issues, so He has been unable to answer. It is time to start talking to Him.

We need personal, family and corporate healing in this area and Jesus is our only answer.

We have seen remarkable things happen after such prayers; people who had battled homosexual desires set free, passion in marriage restored, women who have never had an orgasm have had orgasms, people have felt their virginity and sexual innocence restored, desire for masturbation or pornography has left.

Now, please understand, people really have to be sick of their sin and desire to be made free. Also, they must have deliverance.

If there are demons still there, they will create ungodly desires. If the sexual issue has turned into addiction, the issues of addiction must also be dealt with for total freedom. However, it can never hurt to pray over a person’s sexual imprinting.

I prophecy that as you are prayed for (or you are praying), the power of God will touch you and transform you. You will be cleansed and made whole. You will be able to express your sexuality with freedom. It will be a new day, old things will have passed away. You will receive revelation that your sexuality was a gift from God, a blessing, something sacred by which you can express covenant.

I decree God’s healing, redemption and restoration to your sexuality in the Name of Jesus Christ.

Assignments:

Inner Healing
After you walked out the process shared in this post related to healing, write down three major areas the Lord touched in this format:
1. The Memory
2. The Complaint (how you were damaged and how you felt)
3. How Jesus Revealed Himself

Sexual Imprinting
🎍Find someone that you know has faith in the power of God. It will probably be the same person you have been working with already.

🎍Make sure they have read the information on sexual imprinting. They need to know what they are praying for.

🎍Here is a sample prayer. It’s okay if they pray prophetically anything else the Lord shows them. Double check and make sure you have forgiven everyone who has negatively affected you in any way sexually.

Lord, I bring (Ann’s) sexuality before Your throne. I thank You that You are wiping the slate clean. Send Your fire to purify all of her desires.

I speak healing and cleansing to her mind, her memories, her emotions, her body and her spirit. I thank You Lord that You make all things new.

I now declare that Ann’s sexuality is brand new. I declare that the next time she and her husband come together, covenant will be written on her sexuality.

I speak restoration to her passion and freedom to express herself sexually. We thank You for a new beginning, Lord.

🎍If they are young and unmarried, declare that the Lord has restored their spiritual virginity.

🎍Declare that they would feel pure and undefiled on their wedding day.
Restoration is possible but it all begins with you being tired of your current. No one can force the healing on you.

Credits- Amanda Buys

RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 39 – Assignments

We have looked at several Strongholds that give the enemy a foothold in our lives. If there is something that you didn’t quiet get, please go back and read that bit before taking on the assignment.

There is no need to rush through any assignment, the most important thing is to get delivered.

Assignments on Breaking the Strongholds:

â›łïžMake a list of the people the Lord shows you to forgive. They may even be unrelated to the sexual damage.
â›łïžAny unforgiveness can block our healing. Pour out your complaint to the Lord. (see Psalm 149) Talk to the Lord about how you were affected by what they did.

Then speak forgiveness out loud.
Example: Lord You are showing me my brother. When he made me take my clothes off and he examined me as a child, it made me scared. I have been scared of men ever since. I felt ashamed and it has made me uncomfortable every time I have had to take my clothes off in front of my husband. But Lord by Your grace, I choose to forgive him for everything he did and for all the effects it had on me.

This may have to be done over a period of time, depending on how much the Lord shows you.

Spirit and Soul Ties

Next make a list of people, places or things you could have an ungodly spirit and soul tie with and then pray.

Lord, I break all agreements with and renounce all ungodly spirit and soul ties with (insert who / what the Lord shows you).

I receive forgiveness for any illicit sexual relationships, and I rebuke any curses of the enemy that have reinforced these spirit-soul ties.

Lord I receive restoration for any areas of my spirit and soul that were stolen from me or that I gave away when I shouldn’t have.

I loose myself now from all ungodly spirit and soulish relationships and I submit myself to Your Holy Spirit.

Remember we can have a spirit and soul tie with alcohol, drugs, masturbation, pornography, our perpetrator and even our own pain. Allow God to examine this area for you.

Generational Sin

🏝Read the following scriptures.
2 Corinthians 7:1,
Leviticus 26:39-42,
Exodus 20:4-5,
Nehemiah 9:2,
Isaiah 61:4,
Colossians 2:14,
Galatians 3:13.

🏝Ask the Lord to show you areas of generational sin. Right now, we want to focus on those related to sexual sins, addictions and occult.
🏝Make a list and then pray through the following five steps. Later you can work on other areas, if you choose.
🏝Repent and receive forgiveness for the sin from the Lord.
🏝Forgive your parents, grandparents and ancestors for their sins in this area and get in touch with how their sins affected you.
🏝Receive forgiveness for your own involvement (be specific) and for any ungodly emotions that you have had.
🏝Forgive yourself for your involvement.
🏝Then renounce and break agreement with all of these sins, curses, and any demonic influence.

Example:
Lord, I receive forgiveness for the sin of incest and sexual abuse for myself and my ancestors.

I forgive my parents, grandparents and ancestors for their sins of incest and sexual abuse and for how it affected me by causing my father to be sexually abused and then he in turn molested me. It’s caused me not to trust men and I’ve been unable to express or receive affection. It also created family secrets. No one ever talked about anything. Conversation was just surface.

Lord, I receive forgiveness for my involvement in this area and any ungodly emotions I have had. I have never actually done anything but I have had incestuous thoughts. I have participated in the family’s code of silence. I’ve also been very angry and bitter, but I now receive forgiveness for this.

I forgive myself for my involvement. Even though I hated what was happening as a child, at times I enjoyed the special attention and gifts I received from my father and I forgive myself.
I renounce and break agreement with these sins and curses of incest and sexual abuse and all demons of lust, perversion, defilement, shame, uncleanness, incest, abuse, anger, mistrust,unforgiveness and bitterness. I rebuke, bind and cast out all these demons from my life in Jesus name!

By the power of the Holy Spirit, I release God’s anointing and the grace to forgive as you walk through this process.

As you go through the steps, you will begin to feel lighter and lighter, the weight of generational sin is being removed. Hallelujah!

This process may also take some time. Don’t rush it. Allow the ministry of the Lord to take place.

Ungodly Beliefs

Make a list of the ungodly beliefs the Lord shows you. Here are some more examples:
📌Sex is dirty.
📌You can’t be spiritual and sexual.
📌God created me the wrong sex, I should have been a boy/girl.
📌Men have it better.
📌Women have it better.
📌It’s okay to demand physical affection from my husband and get angry if he becomes sexually stimulated.
📌It’s okay to masturbate or use pornography to have my sexual needs met.
📌If I really communicate with my spouse regarding sexual issues, they will feel rejected. It’s best to just shut up and put up.
📌It’s okay to flirt with the opposite sex as long as you are not going to do anything serious.
📌My sexual appetite cannot be satisfied in marriage.
📌My spouse should satisfy me sexually whenever and however I need it, regardless of how they feel.
📌I am damaged and will never be able to fully enjoy sex.
📌God made a mistake when He created sex. If I can’t have sex, I have to masturbate.
📌It’s okay to masturbate as long as I don’t think about other women.
📌It’s okay to look at pornography as long as we do it together if I really let go and enjoy myself sexually, I am a bad girl/boy.
📌As long as l don’t hurt anyone, what I do sexually is up to me.

Some of them may apply, some may be modified or the Holy Spirit can show you ones you don’t even know you have. Then walk through the following steps for each one.

Prayer
Lord I forgive the people (list their names) who helped me form the ungodly belief that (read the ungodly belief) by (what did they do).

Lord I receive forgiveness for believing this lie, and by walking in agreement with it by (how you have sinfully acted or felt because of the lie you believed).

Lord, I now forgive myself for believing this lie.

Lord, I break all agreements with this lie and any of the associated demons. I rebuke, bind and cast out these demons in Jesus name.

Now I choose to believe that
 (establish a new Godly belief that aligns with scripture).

Write down the new Godly belief and meditate on it several times a day until transformation takes place. Do it for a minimum of 40 days. However, it could take a year or more but it’s worth it!

Example of Prayer:
Lord, I forgive my father, my boyfriends, Tom and Bill, and my husband for helping me form the ungodly belief that “You can’t trust men.”

By my father sexually touching me inappropriately and always making sexual jokes and comments that made me uncomfortable.

By Tom and Bill pressuring me to have sex as a teenager and Bill for cheating on me with my best friend.

By my husband keeping things from me and by telling me he just wants to hold me and then pressuring me sexually when I’ve already told him I was tired.

Lord, I receive forgiveness for believing this lie and by walking in agreement with it and not giving men a chance.

I really have hated men deep down inside and I think I’ve even been mad at You for creating them. I have been prejudiced against men and have believed that all men were the same. I wasn’t even able to trust my pastor or even receive when men preached Your Word. I’ve held bitterness and unforgiveness in my heart.

I’ve been a perfectionist in keeping my house clean in order to avoid intimacy with my husband. I forgive myself for believing this lie. I renounce this lie and break agreement with all demons associated with it.

From this day forth, I choose to believe that, “When You created men, You created a good thing and I by the Holy Spirit, I have the discernment to know which men I can truly trust and to what degree.

I now receive Your instruction on how to love men.” In Jesus name, AMEN.

Deliverance

📍Make a list of any demonic spirits that could have come in from any of the above areas.

Here are lists of some common ones listed by strongholds. But please allow the Lord to show you any other areas of deliverance that you may need. This is just a sample.

Stronghold of Sexual Sins
Lust. Perversion. Fornication. Molestation. Sexual abuse. Rape. Adultery. Illegitimacy. Incest. Defilement. Uncleanness. Masturbation. Homosexuality. Sodomy. Lesbianism. Pornography. Harlotry. Seduction.

Stronghold of the Occult
Religious spirits. Superstition. Masonic. Anything from Indian ancestry. Witchcraft. Rebellion. Fear. Death. Transcendental meditation. Premature death. Mental illness. Accidents. Reincarnation. Spiritualism. Anything from occult movies or books. False gods or religions. Divination (examples: horoscopes, palm reading, water witching, tarot cards)

Stronghold of Unforgiveness
Unforgiveness. Anger. Bitterness. Judgment. Condemnation.

Stronghold of Shame
Shame. Unworthiness. Condemnation. False guilt. Self-accusation.

Stronghold of Addictions and Escape drugs
Alcohol. Computer. Reading. Sleeping. Eating. Television. Passivity. Dissociation.

Stronghold of Deception
Deception. Lying. Denial. Secrecy. Self-deception. Avoidance. Minimising. Justification. Rationalisation.

Now simply renounce and break agreement with the list you have made and then begin to cast them out in the Name (authority) of Jesus Christ. You can do this alone or have a ministry partner.

Example: I renounce and break agreement with the stronghold of shame and the demons ofunworthiness, false guilt and condemnation. I command you to leave in the Name of Jesus. I cast you out of my mind, emotions and body in Jesus name.

Keep declaring until you feel a release. If something seems to be blocking it from leaving, ask the Lord what the blockage is, and He will be faithful to show you. The Word of God says that when we cast out demons the Kingdom of God comes upon us.

Matthew 12:28 But if it is by the Spirit of God that I drive out demons, then the kingdom of God has come upon you.

We know that the Kingdom of God is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost. The Lord loves deliverance.

He loved setting people free while He was on the earth and He still loves it when we exercise His authority and people are loosed from demonic oppression. He will manifest Himself as a Man of War on our behalf.

The Holy Spirit will be faithful to give you discernment and direction. Call upon the Spirit of Might, (Isaiah 11:2) and rise up in your authority as a believer and you will surely possess the victory!!!

Isaiah 11:2 The Spirit of the Lord will rest on him – the Spirit of wisdom and of understanding,the Spirit of counsel and of might, the Spirit of the knowledge and fear of the Lord

May you allow the Lord to walk with you through it all so that you will receive total healing. Blessings

Credits – Amanda Buys

RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 37 – Strongholds of the mind

We previously talked about Strongholds in general, but getting to the strongholds in our mind:

2 Corinthians 10:4-5 “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.”

In Romans 12:2 we are told that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our mind and in Ephesians 4:23, we are instructed to put on the new man through the renewing of the spirit of our mind.

Ephesians 4:23 (KJV) And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;

It’s our job to identify them with the help of the Holy Spirit and root them out and then plant new Godly beliefs. In Jeremiah 1:10, we see that the prophetic anointing roots out, tears down and then builds, plants and establishes.

Jeremiah 1:10 See, I have this day set thee over the nations and over the kingdoms, to root out, and to pull down, and to destroy, and to throw down, to build, and to plant.

We develop ungodly beliefs through the experiences of life. Stuff happens. As a child if ungodly stuff happens to us and around us, we will develop ungodly beliefs about ourselves, about life, about how to handle problems, about sex, about men or women, even about God, etc.

These lies create expectations and feelings that will lead us to behave in certain ways. That behaviour usually recreates a cycle until we are fully convinced that the lies we believe are the truth. They also create agreements and covenants with the enemy which is an open door to demonic oppression.

Let’s look at an example.
Let’s say a little girl only got sexual attention from her father. That plants a seed of belief within her – Sex is what men really want. Now she is a teenager and it seems every boy she dates ends up pressuring her for sex. If she really likes them, she gives in, but is left feeling resentful. She is beginning to think “All men really want from a woman is sex.”
Now she gets married, it seems like the only times her husband gives her attention or affection is when he wants sex. Now she is surely convinced, “Men are pigs and all they want is sex.”
She has a bitter root expectation that has probably defiled her husband. Even when he genuinely wants to just show he loves her, he can’t seem to stop himself and ends up making a sexual advance. She also has the ungodly belief, “The only thing I’m good for is sex.”

In order to be set free, this ungodly belief will have to be rooted up and be replaced with a new godly belief. In the Assignment Section of this phase, there are steps of ministry with an example of how to minister to this area.

The key is to first get to the core of the ungodly beliefs, which comes from examining our experiences. After working through the ministry steps, a new Godly belief must be established. In the above example, it might sound something like this, “Godly men appreciate women and everything about them because they are His creation.”

The last ungodly belief would be replaced with something like this, “I am an intelligent, gifted, creative woman of God who has a lot to offer to the Lord and others. Once the new Godly belief is formed, then it is important to meditate on it until it soaks into the spirit, mind and emotions.

Our new Godly beliefs should always align with the truth of scripture. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to establish new Godly beliefs. They create new expectations that not only change our behaviour but the behaviour of others as well.

Hebrews 12:15 tells us that we should not let a bitter root spring up within us because it will defile many. When we have bitter root expectations, it can defile the people around us.

Hebrews 12:15 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.

Let’s face it, strongholds give place to the enemy. After you have worked through the different strongholds and you have gone through the ministry process, you will need deliverance. At that time, come back to the deliverance portion of this post. Make sure you appropriate some healing before attempting deliverance.

Credits – Amanda Buys

RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 21 – Sexually deviant behaviour cont’d

And the learning continues……..

FETISHES

Fetishes are a result of sexual stimulation being connected to an object. 

Here is an example; a mother is always running around in her slip or maybe in her bra and panties.

She doesn’t realize it but her son is becoming more sexually aware. He begins to become sexually stimulated. As an adult, he has a lingerie fetish. It can be from the degree that he just likes to be stimulated by looking at lingerie ads to the degree that he is breaking into women’s homes to steal their lingerie so he can masturbate with it.

There will be other issues which play into the degree of the fetish and the sexual imprinting.

People can have fetishes with certain body parts. Feet are a very common body part fetish.

Here is another example, a woman has a facial hair fetish. Facial hair on men arouses her.
She is not attracted to men without it. She needs to be able to touch or feel facial hair to be aroused sexually. She was molested by a father. He had a beard that he would rub it against her vagina. She was so young, she doesn’t even have memory of it, but the sexual imprinting still created a fetish.

I [Amanda Buys] have ministered to several people with food fetishes. Certain foods were connected to their sexual imprinting. Sight or smell of those foods could create sexual stimulation. Sometimes the person needed to have food as a part of their sexual experience to feel stimulated.

The Lord will help identify the roots of fetishes and perversion. Many times the people are unaware but the Lord knows exactly how and when the imprinting happened.

 

BESTIALITY

It is sexual activity with animals. It is addressed in Leviticus 18:23. The Lord tells us that we are not to mate with an animal because it defiles us and it is perversion. Many times you find bestiality in family lines where there was animal sacrifice, major sins of the occult, or nature worship. They will need deliverance of an animal spirit.

Sometimes their children will act more like animals than children. They will be totally out of control and animalistic in their behaviours. Sometimes it is just the result of a lack of discipline but it can be the sin of bestiality in the family line.

It can happen in families that were raised in very isolated farm life to ones living in a city apartment with a pet.

Once again sexual imprinting created by sex with animals will create a desire for that experience.

Some people, as they become adults try to avoid the behaviour, but embrace  pornography that portrays bestiality to satisfy the desire. Others will just give into the desire and may even force their partner to participate in the perversion.

It is an extremely devastating experience for a person to have been forced to participate in bestiality. Their sense of shame and unworthiness is tremendous.

They usually have extreme self anger and self loathing because they allowed themselves to be put in that position. Shame is a great barrier whenever you deal with bestiality but it becomes even greater when the person participated against their will.

Credits – Amanda Buys

RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 20 – Sexually deviant behaviour cont’d

Some more…….

PEDOPHILIA
Pedophilia usually has two main roots:
1. Sexual imprinting with other children as a child or molestation by an adult;
2. Stunted emotional development.

They are insecure around adults. They are more comfortable around children. This is a very difficult issue to minister to because of the retarded emotional development. Because of it, they are selfish, impulsive, and lack self-control. They are unable to understand long term consequences.

Not only does the sexual imprinting have to be ministered to, God has to release maturity either supernaturally or through process. Without it, they will continue to desire having their sexual and emotional needs met through children.

This is a rampant sin throughout the world and it is destroying children. They are being exploited, even kidnapped and sold to meet this perverted desire. We must press in to God for the faith and power to see healing come in this area.

Pedophilia has basically been determined to be incurable in the world’s eye. They really have no hope for real freedom for these people. Basically, they must stay incarcerated if convicted and afterwards their presence always has to be known in a community.

This is a form of protection but does not offer hope to the pedophile. I believe there is freedom in Christ but because of both the sexual and emotional components, it can be a lot of work. While they are in a ministry process, they need to be highly accountable.

Their actual protection is people in their lives knowing. It holds them more accountable.

To protect our children in a church setting, if we have a pedophile with a known history, we need to make that known to church leadership and to parents with children.
đŸ”·They should have no ministry contact with children.
đŸ”·They should not help in children or youth ministry.
đŸ”·They should not be allowed to buy children special gifts.
đŸ”·They should never be left alone with children. They must know that their behaviour around the children will be closely monitored.

If it is presented in a proper way, the church membership should still be able to receive them in love as they walk out their restoration.

It needs to be explained in such a way that the pedophile understands that this is for their protection and for the protection of the children in the church. If they are truly in the process of restoration, they will understand and submit to these guidelines. We will look at how to protect our children later in this series.

Credits – Amanda Buys

RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 19 – Sexualy deviant behaviour cont’d

Moving on…….

INCEST
Incest is sex between immediate family members. It is a generational sin. The Lordaddresses it in the 18th Chapter of Leviticus. As God explains different sexual abominations in this chapter, He also tells us that sexual abomination can literally defile the land and causes us to be cut off from the people of God.

Many times poverty, backsliding, and the inability to win family members to God can be rooted in the ancestral sin of incest. It never hurts to take time and stand in the gap and repent.

Here’s another example, the generational sin of illegitimacy goes down ten generations. In Deuteronomy 23:2, it tells us that those of illegitimate birth and their descendants cannot enter the assembly of God up till ten generations.

That’s a lot of people. I recommend that if you have trouble entering into worship or connecting with a church body, take a moment to repent for any illegitimacy that could have been in your family line. The enemy may still be trying to use this curse to battle against you.

You may not have fully applied the Blood of Christ through repentance in this area to break the power of the curse. God takes any sexual sin serious and so under the law, consequences of generational curses were released. We need to appropriate the redemption of the curse of the law through repentance.

Thank God, Jesus became a curse for us that we no longer have to live under the bondage of the curse of the law. It is only through an understanding of the curses of the Old Testament that we can truly get an understanding to what Jesus has done for us. He truly is our Bondage Breaker, redeeming us from the curse of the law.

Galatians 3:13 Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.’

You often find incest in homes where there is no physical or emotional affection demonstrated or where the mother or father refuses to meet their spouses’ sexual needs. It also can be a result of alcohol or drug use which causes self-control to break down.

Incest is often very difficult to minister to because of feelings of disloyalty and betrayal the victim has when sharing what has happened. The objections and feelings must be overcome for them to really open up.

Fears of destroying or hurting the family have to be ministered to as they break the family code of silence and secrecy. 

Imprinting also occurs;
â™Łïžif the incest is with a father, grandfather, uncle or older cousin, it can create a desire for older men.
â™ŁïžThe same applies to women. If it is with a younger sister or brother, it can create desires for pedophilia (sex with children).

Sometimes it is just part of the family history, everyone just sort of accepts it. Deep down they feel it is wrong but their entire extended family is participating in it. They have been basically brainwashed to believe that there is nothing really wrong with it.

Credits – Amanda Buys