A man’s strength lies in these things;
– To make and keep promises.
– Refusing to turn from his commitment.
– It is this staying power that makes and marks a man.
– Not bungee jumping, playing rugby, etc.
– Certainly not leaving your wives.
– Not abandoning your families.

The curse of our day is not so much the AIDS epidemic as it is men who don’t know what a man is and who cut and run from their wives and families.

Some statistics…
– Through most of the 70’s and 80’s, a million children a year watched their parents split-up.
– Over fifty million kids are growing up in homes without a father.
– 70% of men in prison grew up without a father.

Our world is falling apart for lack of kings, warriors, mentors and lovers, for lack of men who will stay and who will keep their word. Keeping your word is critical.

The calling of every man is to offer stability to a world full of chaos.

We live in a “hope so” world. There are few certainties in this life. We “hope…”
– That our marriages will work out
– That we will find fulfillment
– That our children will turn out okay
– That we’ll be able to keep a decent job.

A real man brings certainty to his world by the power of a promise. Promise making and keeping is at the heart of godliness.

At the heart of God – at the core of His nature – is the making and keeping of promises. All Scripture hangs on a promise – a series of covenants.

Out of the whole world, two people – a man and a woman – chose each other. There will always be someone else more beautiful, intelligent, wealthy, witty, competent, sensitive or sensual, But the power of that choice, that promise should keep them together with no question of finding a “better mate”.

The toxin of comparison should be utterly neutralized and washed away by the sacred anti-toxin of promise.

At the heart of staying power is SACRIFICE – giving one’s self up for the good of another.

Our example is: THE LORD JESUS CHRIST.
When He could have turned away from the cross, He stayed on course all the way to Calvary. When He could have come down from the cross and sidestepped the suffering, He stayed. He persevered and “stayed under” all the way until that moment came when He could cry out, “It is finished”.

Why did He do that?
– So that through His resurrection power alive in your lives, you can become the kind of man He called you to be.
– You can hang in there and face anything life or death of hell has to throw at you – because He did it all before you.

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Parents, we have learned a lot over the years. It is our experience that gives us something to offer our children; otherwise, we would be a blank slate. However, in as much as you have got all that experience under your belt, do your child a favour, do not throw it in their face.

Allow your child to learn on their own as well. Give them the chance to experiment; within limits. Otherwise, you would be no better than one that locks their child up in the house with the hope that they are shielding them from the wrong elements. That is pillaging personified.

While you may filter what they can or can not do; which is obviously your responsibility, do not close them off totally.

I know, you may say, ‘better to protect than be sorry’, but the price of a dysfunctional or half-baked child is one that is too high to pay. It’s a bounty one does not want on their head

Happy Parenting


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He was tired, actually, worn out. He’d tried to be clean but all it ever lasted was a week, and he was back, harder than before. The pressure to turn the corner was intensifying. While he wanted to change, more than anyone could imagine, he had lost all sense of direction.

He was not sure what led to it all, but Danny had flipped. I guess the need to please those in his life had finally cracked him. It was now harder to hold down a job, not to mention find one. Besides that, his marriage was surviving by the thread and his children barely knew him anymore.

His family had tried all they could, but nothing had yielded any tangible result. Not until he was celebrating his fortieth birthday, did he recognise how much he had lost and how bleak the future looked.

That was the trigger he’d needed all this while to take the reins of his life back.

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is the love you shower me with,
you crafted me,
without you,
I am nothing,
You are the very centre of my life,
my Lord, my God,
I am indebted to you.

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They heard of your voice,
and tremble they did,
I wondered.

In all they did with you,
they showed lukewarm interest,
seemingly in need to be elsewhere,
it was an eerie sight.

At the sound of your voice,
all they heard was anger,
and all that came with it.

Leave the demons of yesteryears behind,
let the pain go,
hold it no more,
give rejection no foothold,
so you can raise your children,
minus the shadows,
they need you,
but at the moment,
they can’t stand you.

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I heard that it was over,
but my dear,
when did it start?

You enjoyed my visits,
enjoyed that I did chores around your house,
enjoyed my company,
but detested my presence before your peers.

I am aware of all you said,
how I am good for nothing,
a pile of lazy bones,
yet I cleaned up after you,
mopped your floor,
did your laundry.

Why did I fool me’self,
that you would come to see good in me,
that you would eventually love me,
that you would criticise me no more,
that you would see me past my help,
mhhh, how I fooled me!!

Guess it is time to wrap up,
I am not a house help,
I have value,
value beyond doing chores,
goodbye false hope,
my world,
here I come!@#@

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