God made Adam go into a deep sleep in order to create woman. He didn’t wake him up until woman was a complete and finished work.

God is waiting for you to become a finished vessel of honor – one capable of being the instrument to making that man change his ways because of your behavior.

1 PET 3: 1, 2 In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands, so that even if any do not obey the Word of God, they may be won over not by discussion but by the godly lives of their wives, when they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him – to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband.

Before He wakes up that man in your life, God is going to complete His work in you. He is not going to wake the man up to behold a half-baked cookie! He wants every woman to be rooted and grounded in the full understanding of who she was created to be prior to setting her before the eyes of her own Adam. She needs to be equipped to inspire that man to be the man he’s supposed to be. God knows that a complete woman is a force with which to be reckoned. This is why the enmity is between the woman and the serpent (Gen 3:15).

Satan knew that a determined woman was capable of doing great damage to the kingdom of darkness, especially if she sensed that any of her beloved was being threatened. Women are powerful.

And praying women are the most dangerous weapons on the planet in Satan’s eyes; he doesn’t toy with nor entertain them.

Ladies, let’s get back to God’s original design – then, and only then, will our men sit up and take notice and get in line. It’s up to us, ladies! Back- to-the-Garden Movement!


Heavenly Father, we declare that we are getting back to basics to rediscover the beauty of who You created us to be; to rediscover our value in the light of the fact that in Your eyes there is neither male nor female, Greek nor Jew, for You created us all for Your good pleasure.

You’ve bought us with the price of the Blood of Your Son, Jesus, and ransomed us to be Yours – we are joint heirs with You in heavenly places and we walk in dominion in this present life because You shed Your love on us.

We are secure in knowing at all times who we are and whose we are. We have peace in knowing that our rights are all hidden in You and You are the ultimate defender of our cause. We thank You that You will finish the work that You have begun in us. You have made us worthy vessels. You have made us complete in You according to Your design.

We rest in the assurance that as we yield to being the women You long for us to be, You will honor our submission by crowning us with Your divine favor and blessing us with abundant fulfillment and joy. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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RESTORATION OF FEMININITY 4 – What is femininity?


Soft, gentle, delicate, sensitive, modest, etc; it is also synonymous with meek: “strength under control”. Femininity is strength wrapped in a velvet glove.

It is an inner quality that flows from a woman who knows her calling and her value. Feminine women are strong women because their influence is deeply felt rather than simply seen and never static. This influence gets beneath the surface because it is invited in. It is invited in because it is attractive and non-threatening. The feminine woman knows who she is and celebrates being all woman. She lets who she is naturally do all the work for her.

I love being a woman. I love all that it encompasses. That I can be intelligent, intuitive, sharply discerning, dignified and strong, soft and warm; generous with my compassion; tender with my touch; that I can cry openly; that I can change my mind a million times because it’s a woman thing! It’s a beautiful thing.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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Our gifts as women or females are;
– Influence
– Intuition (The ability to be spiritually sensitive, to read the one print in a given situation)
– Sexuality and reproductive abilities.

Man and woman were both created in the image of God, each was uniquely created to emphasize specific parts of God’s nature, with man leaning more toward the mind of God, and woman more toward the heart of God.
Keeping this in mind, we must realize that the man’s heart also seeks the same thing that God’s heart seeks – worship. Man’s foremost desire is for honour, which comes in the form of respect and submission.

God dwells in the midst of His praise, and it is clear that intimacy is born out of the worship experience. All barriers come down in the face of admiration. All defences are lowered as we enjoy the attributes of our beloved, and they in turn respond by drawing closer to us.

As our praises go up to God, He comes down, drawing closer and standing ready to pour out to us the desires of our hearts.
The same thing takes place in our earthly relationships. As we make men feel good about themselves, they pour more of themselves out to us.

True intimacy is birthed out of this sort of communion, and sexual intimacy is the highest form of mutual worship. It is the place of complete vulnerability and openness. Naked and unashamed; without pretence all is revealed and exchanged, and the two come away with a deeper knowing of one another, sharing a bond strong than before.

However, many of us have been made to believe that only near-nude dressing or vulgar language will evoke all these emotions from their husbands. But it’s also sad to note that sex is no longer given the value it deserves.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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Although he was also cursed, he was satisfied that the first phase of his mission had been accomplished. He had successfully caused man to forfeit his God-ordained authority upon the earth, severed the relationship between man and God, and drew battle lines between man and woman. Now he would always have the woman as an open door to get to the man, using her power of influence, her charms, her tongue and her body to penetrate the man’s exterior. We see a lot if that today – look at our dressing as females today. While we call it style and fashion, the enemy has carved a winning ploy through it.

And he would use the man against the woman to cast blame and inflict authority rather than inspire submission. He would use man’s confusion to victimise that which he should protect.

We now all stand as witnesses to the damage done in the Garden. We now have resorted to considering the idea that “men are from Mars and women are from Venus” in order to explain our differences. But, the truth is, no matter how clever the cliché, we are not from different planets. Our origin is much closer: We are part of one another with visible and invisible differences. We are made to benefit, not be at odds with one another.

Understanding and celebrating our differences instead of blaming and shaming is the first step we must take.
God did not design a man’s world but rather where man and woman work together in peaceful harmony, building one another up and promoting each other to good works – namely our God-given assignments on the earth – that others would observe the fruit of our lives and give glory to God.

We women lost it when we failed to recognise our own unique power. Instead we got locked into a power struggle that never existed from God’s vantage point. With everyone defending themselves, we are all losing ground.

It’s time to take off the boxing gloves and allow God to redistribute His first commission to us – man and woman both in power because of their status as complementary partners.

Let’s take a look at Eve again. We need to remember, in order to start feeling valuable and powerful, that man needs help. Man does not do well without woman. God has given each of us specific gifts in order to equip us to be a specific man’s helper. Your gifts may differ from that of another sister, and that’s only because she was created to assist a different type of man. This is why you must understand that not just any man will do for you, or vice versa.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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He knew God’s plan for man and he had to abort it at all costs. He knew from experience that rebellion was the one thing God would not allow in His presence. He had to cause a breach in Adam and Eve’s relationship with God.

He also knew never to underestimate the power of woman. He knew the effect she had on a man. This is why she became his target.
Instead of finding themselves like God, the only thing they really knew was that they were now ashamed of their nakedness.

Eve discovered something else: When man was ashamed, he became insecure. And when he became insecure, he became defensive and cast blame upon her. She became the enemy in the midst of his shame and failure.

Failure was a weight that Adam could not bear. It emasculated him in the presence of Eve. Because he submitted to the woman’s hand that held the fruit, he would now have to struggle for her respect and submission for the rest of his days.

The enemy, unlike what many of us have been made to believe, is very alert. His undulating moves and trickery are out to usurp us of our God given nature and ability. We need to redeem the time, save the younger generation for the times are evil.

Cc – Amanda Buys
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African American Woman Girl Mother Daughter

Many of us have femininity construed. While you were taught otherwise, help you daughter, niece and the girls under your wing understand the truth.

Who told you that you were naked?” This is where it all began.

Who told you to be ashamed of who you are, woman? Who told you that womanhood has no worth?
Who told you that embracing your femininity was a losing proposition?
Who told you that it’s a man’s world?

These words never came from God’s lips. Satan planted this one little seed and it has grown into a great tree bearing a crop of fruit most poisonous. And so began woman’s suspicion that man was keeping something behind his back that he didn’t want her to have.

Why didn’t God want us to be like Him and know good and evil?


It was His intent that we would be His sons and daughters, that we would be like Him because we would walk in perfect fellowship with Him, seeing Him as He is (I John 3:2).

What happened? How did we ever go from the garden to the war zone?

Eve was given to Adam to help him stay focused, to give him extra encouragement from time to time. He needed someone to fill in the blanks, take up the slack, keep him together. He needed a helpmeet, a partner – someone designed especially to compliment him in every way. This person, called woman. She would assist him in completing his assignment to subdue, maintain order, cultivate and take care of God’s creation, to be fruitful and multiply. These things, he could not do without her help.

God has a brilliant future planned out for us and the generations after us. We just need to get it from the right source; His Word

credits: Amanda Buys



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Proverbs 2:1 My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you,
2 making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding;
3 yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding,
4 if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures,
5 then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God

David taught Solomon the ways of the Lord, for no where else do you find the knowledge of God but from His word. No wonder Solomon was able to ask the Lord for wisdom to lead Israel.
When we teach our children the ways of the Lord, they will surely know what they need at every stage of life and ask of the Lord accordingly. Even in those forlorn situations, where they’d rather take their lives than live, His Word will direct them otherwise. But all this calls for us to be consistent in this God given responsibility.


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