Your own recovery
If you are able to be calm and emotionally present, your kids will feel more at ease. The following are steps you can take toward improving your own well-being and outlook:
⏏️Exercise often and eat a healthy diet. Exercise relieves the pent-up stress and frustration that are commonplace with divorce. And although cooking for one can be difficult, eating healthfully will make you feel better, inside and out — so skip the fast food.
⏏️See friends often. It may be tempting to hole up and not see friends and family who will inevitably ask about the divorce — but the reality is that you need the distraction. Ask friends to avoid the topic; they’ll understand.
⏏️Keep a journal. Writing down your feelings, thoughts, and moods can help you release tension, sadness, and anger. As time passes, you can look back on just how far you’ve come.
You’ll need support
At the very least, divorce is complicated and stressful — and can be devastating without support.
🔴Lean on friends. Talk to friends or a support group about your bitterness, anger, frustration — whatever the feeling may be — so you don’t take it out on your kids.
🔴Never vent negative feelings to your child. Whatever you do, do not use your child to talk it out like you would with a friend.
🔴Keep laughing. Try to inject humor and play into your life and the lives of your children as much as you can; it can relieve stress and give you all a break from sadness and anger.
🔴See a therapist. If you are feeling intense anger, fear, grief, shame, or guilt, find a professional to help you work through those feelings.
You will surely come through victorious and a great help to others😀
Credits – Amanda Buys