DEALING WITH GRIEF


Naomi’s GRIEF:

She said, “The Almighty has dealt very bitterly with me. I went out full, and the LORD has brought me home again empty …” (Ruth 1:20-21). Nowhere in the Book of Ruth can you find a rebuke from the LORD for Naomi. In fact, the reverse is true.

At one point in the story, Boaz (a type of Jesus) says to Ruth, “It has been fully reported to me, all that you have done for your mother-in-law” (Ruth 2:11). He was fully aware of her plight and he said to Ruth, “Do not go empty-handed to your mother-in-law” (Ruth 3:17). Essentially, Boaz said, “She’s had enough loss. She won’t return empty any more.”

At the story’s end, the women of the city spoke to Naomi and they said — “Blessed be the LORD, who has not left you this day without a close relative … and may he be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your old age” (Ruth 4:14-15).

Biblical examples:
✅Proverbs 31 Woman. After fourteen verses that expound her virtues, verse 25 says, “She shall rejoice in time to come.” A part of her heart wasn’t rejoicing, but it would in time to come.
✅Elizabeth – Barren. “This is now the sixth month for her who was called barren …” (Luke 1:36).
✅Mary – Frightened. “He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant …” (Luke 1:48).
✅Rachel – she wept for her children and refused to be comforted. He never rebuked Rachel. His response to her was to say, “Okay. Now no more tears. Your children will return.” See Jeremiah 31:15-16.

Isaac PRAYED for Rebecca

Isaac’s journey from Lahai Roi helps to remind us that the LORD remembered Hagar, and He will remember every one of His precious daughters. Lahai Roi was located between Kadesh (consecrated/set apart) and Bered (greeting) in the south country.

South is often representative of blessing in Scripture. Lahai Roi was in a set apart place where the LORD wanted to re-introduce Himself to Isaac. He greeted him kindly and blessed him in the same place where He had revealed Himself to Hagar a generation earlier.

There is a time after loss when tender comfort is needed. Isaac didn’t lie down and die and neglect his duties, but he did take time to receive comfort.

Genesis 24:63 And Isaac went out to meditate and bow down [in prayer] in the open country in the evening; and he looked up and saw that, behold, the camels were coming.

He meditated and prayed in the evening. During grief, certain times will be more heartbreaking than others.
🌻At the heartbreaking times, he meditated on the size of GOD.
🌻He drank deeply of the revelation that GOD saw him, and he prayed.

Pray during the heartbreaking times. We probably shouldn’t be surprised that it was here, in the desert, at night, while praying through his pain, that Isaac first saw Rebekah. She slipped from the camel’s back, and he instantly loved her. Genesis 24:67 says that he brought her into his tent and that he was “comforted after his mother’s death”. The word comforted is our word that paints the graphic picture of a mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. It literally means to draw the breath forcibly. Finally, after a prolonged season of grief, Isaac had new life breathed into his spirit from the LORD.

Genesis 25:20 says Isaac was 40 years old when he took Rebekah as his wife. Do you remember that Isaac was 37 when Sarah died? It was three years after Sarah’s death, before Isaac was finally comforted. We’re not saying that Isaac was in the throes of hard grief for three straight years, but that even after three years, he was still in need of a visitation from GOD in the area of his grief.

Genesis 25:1 says Abraham (after three years) took another wife. It was three years for Abraham’s recovery too. Did the new wife replace Sarah? No. Sarah was still gone, but there was new love.

Credits – Amanda Buys

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