DEALING WITH GRIEF 5


ISAAC deals with his grief.

The first time we see ISAAC after Sarah’s death is in Genesis 24:62 — “Isaac came from …” Since he was coming from somewhere, it means he had been MOVING. It’s dangerous to lie for TOO LONG — we must lie for a season so we don’t reopen unhealed wounds, but we must be very CAREFUL not to lie too LONG!

Like the deceptive feeling of warmth that settles over a hypothermic man in a snowstorm, lying too long in the initial stage of grief can invite a spiritual hypothermia. Our spiritual life can die right there. This is the reason that the LORD established a 30-day period for the initial response to bereavement:

Deuteronomy 34:8 And the Israelites wept for Moses in the plains of Moab THIRTY days; then thedays of WEEPING and MOURNING for Moses were ended.

Don’t panic! We’ll see in a few moments that the LORD allows a great deal of time for recovery and healing. This Scripture does not say that all grieving is absolutely FINISHED in thirty days. There is an initial season devoted to HARD grief … but there comes a time to begin moving again. After the initial thirty days of grieving ended, they broke camp and travelled again.

Everything stopped initially. There is a time for introspective, hard grieving, but GOD limits it — He knows if this stage is unchecked, it can DESTROY our faith, our HOPE, and our perspective of GOD. He never expects our healing to be complete in thirty days, but He does ask us to move again because it is very easy for grief to become mired in despair, and despair can bring with it the desire to die.

Job wanted to die. So did Jeremiah. So did Elijah and Jonah. They hurt so badly that they despaired of life, and there was no rebuke from the LORD for these very real emotions. There is nothing wrong with a believer experiencing such pain and grief, that he or she desires to die — however, we can’t stay in that place. He wants us to live again!

Since Isaac “came from the way of the well” (Genesis 24:62), we see that he must have grieved appropriately. He lay down and then he arose and walked.

Accountability.

Please receive this caution — the victim of hard grief is seldom the right person to analyze his or her own progress. If you are mourning deep loss, it’s true that your friends probably don’t understand your pain, but you still need their watchful care.

Be accountable with your grief. You will need different counsel at the different stages of mourning. Some days you will need to be released to grieve. At other times, you will need to try to walk again.

When Isaac began walking again, he didn’t walk aimlessly. Genesis 24:62 says he “returned from going to the well Beer-lahai-roi” (AMP).

Review the history: Hagar, the mother of Isaac’s half-brother, Ishmael, found and named this well. Do you remember Hagar’s grief?

Compelled to bear a son to Abraham in the face of Sarah’s barrenness, she was despised as soon as she conceived. Sarah treated her with harshness and cruelty. Her masters, because of their own lack of faith, used her. When she gave them what they wanted, she was despised.

When Sarah finally conceived and Isaac was born, Hagar’s son, Ishmael, was rejected and driven out of the family. She had a tough lot in life.

The first time that Sarah mistreated Hagar and she fled from Sarah’s presence into the wilderness, Genesis 16:7 tells us that “the LORD found her.” If the LORD found Hagar, it meant that He had noticed that she was gone. He noticed her absence and her loss. He cared about her loss. If He found her, it means that He had been looking for her.

She didn’t know it, but the search was on — and He didn’t give up until He found her by the well of Lahai Roi. She saw Him there, and she said, “This is the well of Him that lives and sees me” (see Genesis 16:13-14). Years later, on the heels of loss, Isaac came from that same well. In a season of death, Isaac clung to the One who lived and saw him.

Credits – Amanda Buys

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