Psalm 30:5 For His Anger is but for a moment, but His favor is for a lifetime or in His favor is life, WEEPING may endure for a night, but JOY comes in the morning.
Working through GRIEF, and ALLOWING oneself to GRIEVE, is so important!
Is there a BIBLICAL way to GRIEVE? A model we can follow? We don’t want to grieve as “OTHERS WHO HAVE NO HOPE”:
1 Thessalonians 4:13 Now also we would not have you ignorant, brethren, about those who fallasleep [in death], that you may not GRIEVE [for them] as the rest do who have NO HOPE [beyondthe grave].
It is SO important NOT to suppress grief — as we’ve seen, it only FESTERS and can even create HEALTH problems later in life … so how does a man of GOD grieve? How does a woman of FAITH endure loss and trauma?
The first mention of GRIEF in the Bible is after the death of SARAH, the faithful wife of ABRAHAM and mother of ISAAC. The Scriptures give us insights into the response of both HUSBAND and SON that are deeply liberating. They set us up for a healthy, thorough, balanced approach to GRIEF, faith, and HEALING …
Those who are experiencing the deep pain of sorrow, grief, and loss are very sensitive and it is easy to unwittingly inflict guilt or condemnation on them. When the Bible addresses the subject of grief, it offers PRINCIPLES rather than formulas.
If your experience is slightly different from what is presented here with Abraham and Isaac, or if your time frames of mourning vary, please be at peace. It’s okay. The principles revealed through ABRAHAM and ISAAC’s response to loss should be very COMFORTING and ENCOURAGING.
The story begins in Genesis 23 … SARAH was 127 years old when she passed away.
ABRAHAM was 137, and ISAAC was 37 at the time of her death. (Keep these figures in mind as we commence, because they will become helpful in assessing the Biblical time frames for mourning and grief recovery.)
Genesis 23:2 And Sarah DIED in Kiriath Arba, that is, HEBRON, in the land of Canaan. AndAbraham went to MOURN for Sarah and to WEEP for her.
“Kiriath” means “CITY OF” and “Arba” was the name of the chief of the GIANTS who dominated the LAND at the time. “Kiriath-arba” was the STRONGHOLD of the giants. We see Abraham and Sarah were in an ENEMY land when she died … Kiriath Arba also means ‘city of four,’ referring to the legend that the four couples — Adam/Eve, Abraham/Sarah, Isaac/Rebecca, and Jacob/Leah — are buried here.
Sometimes GRIEF strikes when the enemy has you surrounded. In a stronghold of the enemy, Abraham lost his wife and was plunged into the icy grasp of grief.
Grief can follow an EXPECTED loss such as the death of aged grandparents … but it can also SHOCK you with its UNEXPECTED timing. Abraham didn’t expect to lose Sarah. He was ten years older than she was. Today, the life expectancy for the average female is several years longer than that of the average man. Abraham should have died first.
If Kiriath-arba is an unfamiliar term, it’s more likely that you’ve heard of Hebron. Hebron was the mountain that Caleb conquered as an 80 year-old man. It was the mountain where David was first anointed king of Judah.
We’re scarcely into the study of grief, and the Holy Spirit wants to insert HOPE!………..
Credits – Amanda Buys