Pornography is an INDICATOR of ARRESTED development and CHILDHOOD wounds.
Pornography must be AVOIDED because it also creates sexual IMPRINTING.
It creates desires for CERTAIN body types, for PERVERTED sexual practices, and often leads to MASTURBATION.
Pornography is ANYTHING that you can visually see — either in magazines, books, movies, videos,on the internet, cell phones or computer games that depict other people in a SEXUAL nature. It can ALSO be what you hear through things like music, movies, or videos.
Pornography allows you to be sexually stimulated WITHOUT the responsibilities or RISKS of a relationship. A centre-fold in amagazine or a poster on a wall cannot REJECT you. It’s about INSTANT gratification — I want it NOW!
In ARRESTED development, we always want something NEW. We buy a new car and then want another NEW CAR … like a CHILD wanting more toys – only TOY CARS are much cheaper than the real deal.
Relationship and intimacy takes WORK, sacrifice, COMMITMENT, and COMMUNICATION. If I’m an ADULT, I see value in my WIFE and am willing to INVEST in her completely, and BOND with her in every area — emotionally, SPIRITUALLY, sexually, being able to take a RISK and be VULNERABLE. A wife does the same for her husband out of choice, not out of co-dependency. It is a true desire to connect in every area.
When I’m ARRESTED, building relationships in MARRIAGE becomes a curse and a BURDEN to me.
PORNOGRAPHY is a SHORT CUT to sexual gratification … but comes with a HEAVY PRICE.
How does porn WORK?
🛑Our minds will create a situation any way the IMAGINATION will allow it. You can make a PICTURE or FANTASY anything you want it to become. You can look at the picture and the mind has the ability to animate it.
Though you may have 100 porn films and 300 magazines, your mind will focus ONLY on a FEW of these — and will become HOOKED on these. The same with the magazines — out of your whole collection, you will have about 10-15 magazines with certain pictures in each one, because the mind comes to ownership of what we fantasize about.
🛑The body RESPONDS to the FANTASY, and the FANTASY to the mind becomes REALITY. It is REAL to the SUBCONSCIOUS. Jesus says:
Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who so much as LOOKS at a woman with EVIL desire for her has already committed adultery with her in his HEART.
The mind CANNOT tell the difference between REALITY and FANTASY.
🛑SEX and SEXUAL pleasure (masturbation) is SUPER-GLUE, and will BOND you to whatever you’re receiving pleasure from.
🛑Pornography also creates DISSATISFACTION with the REALITY of life. People who have been imprinted sexually with pornography are usually NEVER HAPPY or SATISFIED in a normal COVENANT sexual relationship, unless they are HEALED.
🛑MANY times pornography depicts PERVERTED sexual acts. It is a LIE to say I can look at pornography NOW, but when I get married I will stop … it will STILL affect you. You will either keep looking at it and HIDE it because of your SHAME, Or you will be frustrated and resentful that your COVENANT relationship is not meeting the WRONG desires that are in you.
Credits – Amanda Buys