Adultery, masturbation and sexual PERVERSIONS 3

A word on OLDER men arrested in development.
If there has been abuse and trauma as a child, and the man is arrested in development — and as he has aged, he is still not healed of his pain — it could happen that he will revert back to his childhood problems, and become bi-sexual.

This is especially true if his relationship with his wife has been very shallow and superficial, and he has had to “help” himself with pornography and masturbation through the past years. At this stage, his sexuality is so numbed out and he now needs something more for that “ultimate” orgasm — that he will turn to molesting children, male and female. Having NUMBED his sexuality, he will pursue GREATER perversions.
GOD WANTS to HEAL sexual brokenness.
✅Whatever happened to you as a child growing up … GOD wants to bring restoration and HEALING to your sexuality.
SEXUAL pleasure is a BEAUTIFUL GIFT. Biblically speaking, SEX is GOOD.
✅Sexual intimacy should bring the GREATEST JOY, pleasure, happiness, and ONENESS.
GOD also wants you to have a GOOD marriage.
GOD is waiting to HELP you develop a glorious relationship.
GOD wants your marriage to REFLECT His KINGDOM here on earth …
Seek GOD FIRST in all you do as ONE. LOVE and RESPECT each other … and watch your marriage BLOSSOM in SHALOM.
Science Proves Premarital Sex Rewires the Brain
There’s a reason why breaking up from a sexual relationship is much more emotionally painful and much harder to forget than one that didn’t involve sex. There are several neurochemical processes that occur during sex, which are the “glue” to human bonding.
Sex is a powerful brain stimulant. When someone is involved sexually, it makes him or her want to repeat that act.
Their brain produces lots of dopamine — a powerful chemical, which is compared to heroin on the brain.

Dopamine is your internal pleasure/reward system. When dopamine is involved, it changes how we remember.
The other part is oxytocin, which is designed to mainly help us forget what is painful. Oxytocin is a hormone produced primarily in women’s bodies.
When a woman has a child and she is breastfeeding, she produces lots of oxytocin, which bonds her to her child. For this reason, mothers will die for their child, because they’ve become emotionally bonded due to the oxytocin that is released when they’re skin-to-skin with their child.

The same phenomenon occurs when a woman is intimate with a man. Oxytocin is released, and this makes her bond to him emotionally.

Have you wondered sometimes why a woman will stay with a man who’s abusing her? We know now that it’s because she bonded to him emotionally because of the oxytocin released during sex.
Men produce vasopressin, which is also referred to as the “monogamy hormone,” and it has the same effect as oxytocin has on a woman. It bonds a man to a woman.
These “bonding” agents narrow our selection to one person. That is wonderful in a marriage relationship but really bad in a dating relationship because you lose your objectivity when you’re searching for your potential life mate.

Ctedits – Amanda Buys


Adultery, masturbation and sexual PERVERSIONS 2

A word on sexual perversions.
Sexual perversions cause you to become CALLOUS. Continual pornography and/or masturbation will cause your body NOT to respond to “NORMAL” stimulation. The callousness can become so bad that it could take two/three women, vibrators, etc. for days at a time, in order to have an orgasm.

You will need MORE and MORE to experience pleasure. You will NUMB both your body AND your brain on the subconscious AND conscious levels, because of the excessive SELF-ABUSE.
GOD has designed COVENANTAL intimacy so that the older you get, and the more you BOND, the greater the orgasm. The WORLD seeks pleasure in un-Godly sexual practices, which have to become more PERVERTED in order to feel more pleasure.

Why does the PERVERSION eventually involve pain? Research has proven that if any form of pain is intense enough, the body spontaneously ejaculates to nullify the PAIN.

EXAMPLES include death by electrocution, hanging, etc. Men doomed for the electric chair will have an orgasm when they pull the switch. The same for a man being hung to death — the body will ejaculate trying to nullify the pain as death is eminent. Young people tie a rope/belt around their necks, and almost suffocate to the point of orgasm — this level of orgasm becomes euphoric. Young people have been found hanging up in closets with pornography books on the floor and sperm all over the place — and the young man is dead.
They had no control and could not release the strap/rope around their neck —they were looking for the euphoric ultimate, ultimate orgasm.

Such severe PAIN situations can cause a spontaneous ORGASM. Again, the body is trying to neutralize the pain with the release of endorphins.

Satan is chasing them on by saying there is something more out there, something greater out there — there is greater high — there is a better looking blonde, someone with bigger breasts — another one with better looking sexual area, and so it carries on — enough is never enough.
As you become more and more callous, and depend on more and more perversities for greater pleasure — you will eventually end at sadomasochism.

For example, a person will be tied down with handcuffs and chains — tied to a bed or hung on a wall. One person will be stimulating with masturbation, and another person will take a surgical knife and then cut the meat of the thighs or the other sensitive areas of the body, to the point that the pain is so great, that the body will release through orgasm.

This is why PAIN is involved in PERVERTED sexual practices — whips, handcuffs, chains, cutting … all in the chase for THAT orgasm, because the body has become so NUMB.

As disgusting as it may sound, that’s what is happening because many have taken the ungodly way to sexual satisfaction.

Credits – Amanda Buys

Adultery, masturbation, and sexual PERVERSIONS.

A word on ADULTERY.
If you open un-Godly sexual doors, the enemy will be sure to send you just the right “DELILAH”. If you start to FANTASIZE about her, the mind will start to ANIMATE situations with her. After SEVEN times of masturbating with her image in mind, the SUBCONSCIOUS will start believing there is a RELATIONSHIP, and you will become SEXUALLY DEPENDENT upon her image.

As you FLIRT with her and meeting times become more and more INTENSE, a day will come when you WILL go over into the REAL act of sexual intimacy.

The SUBCONSCIOUS has ALREADY believed you have a RELATIONSHIP with her, and there will be NO stopping this act of ADULTERY. No matter how much you know it is SIN, in your MIND you have already done the deed …

Premarital sex.
Heavy petting means we have overstepped GOD’s Boundaries in the dating/courting stage, and for the rest of your married life with that same woman, she will make you prove to show her you love her for who she is and not for what she does. Couples think that if they have not had physical intercourse but just mutual masturbation, it means they have not sinned — “We will try to justify anything to fulfill the desires of the flesh.”

A word on masturbation within MARRIAGE.
Fantasizing even about your WIFE will LOCK you in. It is another QUICK FIX without the COMMITMENT of BONDING. When you do try to have intimacy with your wife, because of the TIME it takes for her to BUILD UP to the sexual act, you will become DISSATISFIED and FRUSTRATED, causing DAMAGE to the intimacy within MARRIAGE.

It is a fantasy that begins to make your body respond, and then you get angry at your partner and start making demands of her, because you want the fulfillment of what you have been fantasizing about — she is there, but you don’t want to take the time and effort a real relationship takes to build up to the sexual act. A wife needs to be wooed and loved to build up to intimacy, where masturbation is a selfish, quick release.

Credits – Amanda Buys


Pornography is an INDICATOR of ARRESTED development and CHILDHOOD wounds.

Pornography must be AVOIDED because it also creates sexual IMPRINTING.

It creates desires for CERTAIN body types, for PERVERTED sexual practices, and often leads to MASTURBATION.
Pornography is ANYTHING that you can visually see — either in magazines, books, movies, videos,on the internet, cell phones or computer games that depict other people in a SEXUAL nature. It can ALSO be what you hear through things like music, movies, or videos.

Pornography allows you to be sexually stimulated WITHOUT the responsibilities or RISKS of a relationship. A centre-fold in amagazine or a poster on a wall cannot REJECT you. It’s about INSTANT gratification — I want it NOW!

In ARRESTED development, we always want something NEW. We buy a new car and then want another NEW CAR … like a CHILD wanting more toys – only TOY CARS are much cheaper than the real deal.

Relationship and intimacy takes WORK, sacrifice, COMMITMENT, and COMMUNICATION. If I’m an ADULT, I see value in my WIFE and am willing to INVEST in her completely, and BOND with her in every area — emotionally, SPIRITUALLY, sexually, being able to take a RISK and be VULNERABLE. A wife does the same for her husband out of choice, not out of co-dependency. It is a true desire to connect in every area.

When I’m ARRESTED, building relationships in MARRIAGE becomes a curse and a BURDEN to me.

PORNOGRAPHY is a SHORT CUT to sexual gratification … but comes with a HEAVY PRICE.
How does porn WORK?

🛑Our minds will create a situation any way the IMAGINATION will allow it. You can make a PICTURE or FANTASY anything you want it to become. You can look at the picture and the mind has the ability to animate it.
Though you may have 100 porn films and 300 magazines, your mind will focus ONLY on a FEW of these — and will become HOOKED on these. The same with the magazines — out of your whole collection, you will have about 10-15 magazines with certain pictures in each one, because the mind comes to ownership of what we fantasize about.

🛑The body RESPONDS to the FANTASY, and the FANTASY to the mind becomes REALITY. It is REAL to the SUBCONSCIOUS. Jesus says:
Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who so much as LOOKS at a woman with EVIL desire for  her has already committed adultery with her in his HEART.

The mind CANNOT tell the difference between REALITY and FANTASY. 

🛑SEX and SEXUAL pleasure (masturbation) is SUPER-GLUE, and will BOND you to whatever you’re receiving pleasure from.

🛑Pornography also creates DISSATISFACTION with the REALITY of life. People who have been imprinted sexually with pornography are usually NEVER HAPPY or  SATISFIED in a normal COVENANT sexual relationship, unless they are HEALED.

🛑MANY times pornography depicts PERVERTED sexual acts. It is a LIE to say I can look at pornography NOW, but when I get married I will stop … it will STILL affect you. You will either keep looking at it and HIDE it because of your SHAME, Or you will be frustrated and resentful that your COVENANT relationship is not meeting the WRONG desires that are in you.

Credits – Amanda Buys