A word on OLDER men arrested in development.
If there has been abuse and trauma as a child, and the man is arrested in development — and as he has aged, he is still not healed of his pain — it could happen that he will revert back to his childhood problems, and become bi-sexual.
This is especially true if his relationship with his wife has been very shallow and superficial, and he has had to “help” himself with pornography and masturbation through the past years. At this stage, his sexuality is so numbed out and he now needs something more for that “ultimate” orgasm — that he will turn to molesting children, male and female. Having NUMBED his sexuality, he will pursue GREATER perversions.
✅GOD WANTS to HEAL sexual brokenness.
✅Whatever happened to you as a child growing up … GOD wants to bring restoration and HEALING to your sexuality.
✅SEXUAL pleasure is a BEAUTIFUL GIFT. Biblically speaking, SEX is GOOD.
✅Sexual intimacy should bring the GREATEST JOY, pleasure, happiness, and ONENESS.
✅GOD also wants you to have a GOOD marriage.
✅GOD is waiting to HELP you develop a glorious relationship.
✅GOD wants your marriage to REFLECT His KINGDOM here on earth …
Seek GOD FIRST in all you do as ONE. LOVE and RESPECT each other … and watch your marriage BLOSSOM in SHALOM.
Science Proves Premarital Sex Rewires the Brain
There’s a reason why breaking up from a sexual relationship is much more emotionally painful and much harder to forget than one that didn’t involve sex. There are several neurochemical processes that occur during sex, which are the “glue” to human bonding.
Sex is a powerful brain stimulant. When someone is involved sexually, it makes him or her want to repeat that act.
Their brain produces lots of dopamine — a powerful chemical, which is compared to heroin on the brain.
Dopamine is your internal pleasure/reward system. When dopamine is involved, it changes how we remember.
The other part is oxytocin, which is designed to mainly help us forget what is painful. Oxytocin is a hormone produced primarily in women’s bodies.
When a woman has a child and she is breastfeeding, she produces lots of oxytocin, which bonds her to her child. For this reason, mothers will die for their child, because they’ve become emotionally bonded due to the oxytocin that is released when they’re skin-to-skin with their child.
The same phenomenon occurs when a woman is intimate with a man. Oxytocin is released, and this makes her bond to him emotionally.
Have you wondered sometimes why a woman will stay with a man who’s abusing her? We know now that it’s because she bonded to him emotionally because of the oxytocin released during sex.
Men produce vasopressin, which is also referred to as the “monogamy hormone,” and it has the same effect as oxytocin has on a woman. It bonds a man to a woman.
These “bonding” agents narrow our selection to one person. That is wonderful in a marriage relationship but really bad in a dating relationship because you lose your objectivity when you’re searching for your potential life mate.
Ctedits – Amanda Buys