So, how am I supposed to find out about sex?
GOD made our sexuality a very IMPORTANT part of us — it is only natural for young people to want to know about sex as they get older. Many times it is CURIOSITY that causes them to EXPOSE themselves to impure sexual things like playboy (pornographic) magazines, pornographic movies, or experimenting with another person. These kinds of EXPOSURES give CONFUSING and perverted (wrong) messages about SEX.
Some people grow up with messages like:
🌺Sex is DIRTY,
🌺You shouldn’t TALK about sex,
🌺Sex is only to be talked about with grown-ups.
Sometimes the messages you get from church and home about sex say, “JUST DON’T DO IT”. They say it’s wrong BUT they don’t always tell you WHY.
GOD tells us that things are WRONG because He knows they will HURT US.
GOD knows that sex OUTSIDE of marriage DAMAGES our ability to be FAITHFUL in our COVENANT relationship.
It is not WRONG to want to understand your sexuality and to be curious about sexual things. It only becomes DESTRUCTIVE when you satisfy your curiosity in ways that cause your sexuality to be exposed to IMPURE sexual imprinting.
A word on MASTURBATION.
DEFINITION — When you stimulate yourself physically to the point of orgasm.
🥀It can become addicting.
🥀It brings a physical release.
🥀It releases feel-good chemicals in the brain.
🥀You can find your desire to do it increasing.
🥀After a while, whenever you feel upset or tense, you will find a desire to masturbate.
Sexual release stimulates the brain PLEASURE center, which is the same place that gets stimulated when you use cocaine and heroine. That is why there are SEX addicts.
Did you know, the genital control center and the bonding control center are ADJACENT in the brain, right NEXT DOOR to each other. The PURPOSE of our sexuality is to SYNCHRONIZE energy states, emotions … with another person who is glad to be with me.
Masturbation is when you synchronize energy with NOBODY. This leaves the person to bond with themselves, their fantasy, or other non-relational entities … resulting in the person being further isolatedand compulsive.
GOD created us … these control centers being side-by-side is NOT by accident. GOD intends for sex to be a BONDING connection between husband and wife. Orgasm BONDS you with whomever or whatever you were with.
There is NO such thing as “CASUAL” sex. Sex is super–GLUE, it sticks you TOGETHER. One flesh/spirit/soul is glued to another.
The enemy has TWISTED GOD’s Design — satan has perverted the BEAUTY of what GOD intended by introducing other people, sex toys, fantasies, and so forth, into this intimate experience. That is how we then get bonded to whoever/whatever we are looking at the point of orgasm.
Masturbation therefore feeds our FEAR of intimacy in relationship to the point of total ISOLATION. Some men are SINGLE because, through porn and masturbation, they have learned that they can have a FALSE intimacy without RISKING relationship. Many married men live isolated lives BECAUSE, through their ADDICTION to masturbation, they are cut off from the one they have PROMISED to love, honour and cherish.
Masturbation feeds our ISOLATION.
Most teenagers think that they can masturbate and when they get married they will just STOP. That is a LIE. Many adults still struggle with masturbation in their marriage. It is how they were sexually imprinted and until that imprinting is CLEANSED, that desire is there.
Is masturbation SIN?
It’s easy to tell …
🍂do you feel ASHAMED?
🍂Is it something you would want your parents or people atyour church/school to know?
Shame is always the result of sin, and masturbation is accompanied by much SHAME. Whenever we are ashamed of something, we will HIDE it and do it in secret. That’s a pretty GOOD indicator that masturbation is SIN
Credits – Amanda Buys