RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 27 – Sexual positions


I can see your eyes going 😳😳, but yes, what sexuality without knowing how it’s done🤔🤔

Let’s take a moment and discuss sexual positioning and how it reflects the spiritual dimension of the relationship. Now please understand, this is not something for you to take legalistically. It is okay to experiment with different sexual positions.

But I have found some interesting dynamics related to sexual positions as a reflection of the over-all relationship.

Now this is if this is the preferred position in the relationship, not one that is just experimented with occasionally. Also, I understand that sometimes physical issues can affect our sexual positioning.

✅Usually, if there is a preference for the wife to be on top during sex, she will tend to be dominate in the relationship. The man prefers to be passive.
The woman will tend to be more of the decision maker and in control. I have found that by requiring different sexual positions, you can also change how the man and wife relate to each other in different areas.

✅If the husband or wife, tends to just want the other person to masturbate them or give them oral sex, there usually is tremendous selfishness in the marriage. Serve me, take care of me, but I have nothing to give you.

✅If the man prefers to position himself behind the woman with her facing away from him, he tends to be dominating and will treat her as subservient in the marriage. He will have a major problem with intimacy. She will have taken the issue of submission to an extreme.

✅And if he prefers sodomy to normal sex, he usually will treat her no better than an animal. He won’t take care of any of her needs as a woman. She is just used to satisfy his sexual needs.
Sodomy is a sin according to the Word of God. It can create many physical problems from the trauma that occurs. Stored trauma can create constipation, colitis, hemorrhoids, and other health problems. The sin must be repented of and the trauma must be healed by the Lord.

✅It is interesting that the position most often used sexually is even called the missionary position. It is the ones that the Christian missionaries used and would even bring to tribal nations. It is actually the greatest reflection of what a marriage relationship should be.
When an animal wants another animal to know it is not a threat and is willing to submit to them, they will roll on their back and show their belly. In marriage, the woman takes the role of submitting to her husband. When she is lying on her back with her belly up, she is reflecting submission. He is to be in the place of covering and protecting her.

When he puts his body over hers, it is a reflection of his spiritual covering. She is protected. They are face to face, reflecting intimacy. Their bodies fit together the most intimately in this position. There is an oneness that takes place.

Because of its spiritual reflection, this should be the most used sexual position. If because of health reasons, you are unable to. Make sure whenever possible that you lie together, holding each other, facing each other, before and after you have had sexual contact.

Our sexual lives can be the pulse by which we measure the health of our marriage. Just like your physical health can be determined by taking your pulse. If it beats to high or too low, you can be in physical trouble.

❇️The demand for too much sex, can indicate sexual addiction and not enough sex is a sign that the marriage health is suffering. Again it is hard to give norms because times and seasons can affect our sex lives.

❇️Times of pregnancy, nursing, deaths in the family, etc. can affect us sexually. Our physical health can affect our sexual lives.
But we have a responsibility to stay as healthy as we can and under most circumstances having sexual relationships two to three times a week is pretty normal.

❇️A demand for sex every day or more than once a day is usually indicative of a sexual addiction. Sex once a week or less is usually indicative of a marriage that is starting to pull a part. Other things have a priority; kids, work, hobbies, TV, etc.

When you become too busy or too tired to maintain a healthy sex life, you must take that as a warning that something is out of order in your life. It is a sign that your marital health is suffering. If you are having sex every six months, its time to call in someone to resuscitate the marriage, it is almost dead. You may have a friendship. You may be living together but marital intimacy is not there.

Again it is that interlocking process that holds the marriage together. We need a healthy sex life to maintain a healthy marriage. But we also need healthy communication, intimacy, and right choices to make the marriage relationship a priority in order to have a healthy sex life. Each will affect the other, both must be maintained for true marital health.

I hope that you now appreciate why we looked at this subject.😊😊

Credits – Amanda Buys

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