RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 25 – Sexually deviant behaviour cont’d


GROUP SEX

This can be with one or more people.

➰It can be called a “menage a trios”, a three-some. It can be called swinging, where people exchange partners. There are actual swinger clubs where people just go to have sex with other people.

➰Another name is orgy. This is when a number of people are involved with different sexual acts all at the same time.

Group sex can be a result of imprinting but usually it stems more out of sexual addiction. Just like a drug addict keeps looking for a higher high and needs more and more stimulation, a sex addict also becomes satiated and needs more and more unusual sexual behaviour to satisfy the addiction.

Finally, sex with just one person is not stimulating enough anymore; they need sex with more people and need the thrill of other people watching them. Part of the excitement is the fantasy that takes place.

Some people who visit sex clubs literally create false identities. They are no longer themselves; they are this other exciting person they have created. It causes them to feel more powerful sexually.

In dealing with issues of group sex, there will still be roots of sexual imprinting that will need to be uncovered:

✖️How did sex get tied to their sense of self-worth or become their ability to escape life around them?

✖️There will still be imprinting issues.

However, usually it won’t be from a first time experience of group sex.

↘️Also, it can be imprinted through experience with pornography displaying group sex.

↘️Sometimes also, young boys will get together and masturbate in a group. This can later lead to a need to display their sexuality to others in order to feel sexually excited.

VOYEURISM

This is the desire to watch others when they are not aware of it.

It may be the desire to see someone undress, go to the bathroom, take a shower or bath, have sex, or simply watch them when they are unaware. It is often accompanied by masturbation.

Usually, it is connected with childhood imprinting. As they were becoming aware sexually, something caused them to become sexually excited while watching someone else:

⏩Maybe they watched the babysitter and the boyfriend make out when they thought they were sleeping.

⏩Maybe they caught glimpses of their sisters in the bathroom.

⏩Maybe they saw their mom and dad undressing or having sex.

⏩Maybe they saw the neighbor lady undressing and getting ready for bed. Sexual arousal happened and sexual imprinting took place.

Now couple this with insecurity and fear of rejection and you have the right soil for voyeurism to take root.

Voyeurism tends to affect men more than women. One of the reasons is that men tend to need more visual stimulation sexually than women – Women need more emotional stimulation.

The need for visual stimulation is the perfect set up for voyeurism.

Credits – Amanda Buys

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