RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 17 – Dynamics of Shame cont’d

And lastly about shame dynamics………

Shame affects identity. Guilt feelings can come when we have done something wrong. That is normal. It is the way God created us. We feel conviction of the Holy Spirit. When we repent, guilt leaves. Shame tries to tell us who we are.

It creates feelings of rejection, unworthiness or we can develop opposite feelings of pride,self-righteousness and superiority as we try to combat the sense of shame deep inside.

To get free, we must begin to focus on who we are in Christ. We can no longer believe the lies of the enemy. A shameful thing may have happened to us or we may have even participated in something sexually shameful.

But that is not who we are. The enemy tries to use those things to pervert our identity. It is time to stop believing the lies and to fight for the truth. Those may be the facts of your life, but they are not the truth of the life of Christ in you.

You have to get delivered from the ministry of self-condemnation! You can discern the difference between condemnation and conviction.

⛳️When conviction comes and we truly repent, joy and peace always follows.

⛳️When it is the condemnation of the enemy, we repent and repent and never feel joy and peace. The heaviness does not lift. We have to rebuke condemnation but open our hearts to receive true conviction.

Many times we have spent years fighting off the shame, covering it up, and hoping it would just go away. It’s not always easy to get in touch with, but it’s worth it. I declare that the Lord Jesus can and will heal you of all of your shame which keeps you from enjoying His presence.

Let the Lord gracefully uncover the hidden things. Let His love cover you. His banner over you is love.

Song of Solomon 2:4 Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love.

Spend some quiet time before the Lord. Ask Him to show you some of your behaviours that are really rooted in your shame. Write them down.

Next, think about the things that the enemy has tried to convince you were true about yourself. “You are rejected, unprotected, unloved, unworthy, afraid, damaged, depressed, etc.”

Find scriptures to combat the lies of the enemy, write them down and meditate on them daily until you know that transformation has occurred. We are transformed by the renewing of our mind.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Start with at least 5 of them. If you need help, find someone who knows how to use a concordance and knows the Bible. Let them help you find scriptures that tell you who you are in Christ.

Put them in first person. “I am… “Keep the statements short and paraphrase if necessary so they are easy to memorize. Scripture examples:
– Ephesians 1:6 “l am accepted in the beloved.”
– Psalm 119:114 “I am shielded and protected by the Lord.”
– 2 Timothy 1:7 “l am a woman of power love and I have a sound mind.”
– Zechariah 2:8 “l am the apple of God’s eye.”
– 2 Corinthians 5:17 “l am new in Christ.”

We are surely more than conquerors in Christ Jesus, who first loved us. Nothing can defeat us, but that is a decision we have to make😀

Credits – Amanda Buys


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