RESTORING YOUR SEXUALITY 5 – Sexual Imprinting


Continuing from the previous post…..

Example 3
Let’s look at another example. A young girl is molested by her uncle at eleven years old. He is 15 years older than her. She has tried to forget about it. Now she’s a teenager. Somehow the boys her age don’t appeal to her. She continually finds older men attractive. She eventually does marry someone her own age because it’s the right thing to do. However, she keeps getting drawn into affairs with older men and can’t figure out why.

It seems pretty obvious from the outside looking in, she was imprinted sexually by an older man. Even though she hated what happened to her and didn’t want to ever have anything else to do with her uncle, her sexual desires were still being affected by that first experience.

Do we just call her promiscuous and label her? Do we simply cast out the spirit of lust if she comes to us because she really hates her lifestyle? Or do we minister the fullness of God’s love and restoration power. That imprinting has to be exposed and cleansed. The root must be pulled up.

Example 4
I think you are starting to get the picture. Let me give you two more examples before we move on. A young boy gets a hold of his father’s playboy [pornography] magazines at a young age. He shares them with his friends. As he gets older, he ends up watching pornographic movies.

He has had first time and repetitive sexual imprinting with pornography. Now he’s a married man, a father and a Christian. He knows looking at pornography is wrong. He wants to be excited by his wife but sometimes it doesn’t seem to be enough. He tries to get his wife to be more like the women in the magazines and in the movies. It just makes her feel uncomfortable and rejected.

She doesn’t feel like he really wants her. He gets angry and implies that if she loved him, she would do those things. She is confused and hurt. Eventually, he quits trying but loses sexual interest in his wife.

He is angry at her because she wouldn’t meet his perverted needs. Now he has to sneak out to X-rated movies and look at pornography in his office at work.

He feels bad but justifies it by saying it’s his wife’s fault because she wouldn’t give him what he needs sexually.

Until he understands how he was imprinted, he will just believe that it’s a pretty normal thing. He will justify it by saying that most guys have looked at pornography and if his wife was sexier, he wouldn’t have the problem. Wrong!

When pornography is a problem, it doesn’t matter how beautiful or sexy his wife might be, his sexual imprinting demands more.

The sexual sin must be repented of and the power of God for healing, cleansing and sanctification must be appropriated. Then he has to walk it out by confessing and repenting to his wife and finding someone to hold him accountable in this area.

Credits- Amanda Buys

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