Picking up from where we stopped on worship, praise and sex, purification in the natural begins with bathing, preparing your body to be pleasing to your partner. Women bleed at the first sexual encounter – this is the passage through the blood in the natural. Virginity is a type of the best sacrifice. The burning coals and incense are now replaced by the passion, appreciation and praise you shower on one another throughout your intimate encounter.
You are totally yielding, giving everything you have, everything you are, to one another – completely pouring out but being filled at the same time.
This is worship in its purest form. There is also wrong worship – Aaron’s sons died when they offered the wrong fire and incense before God. Sex outside of marriage brings death to our spirits, as well as to our sense of well-being; also physical death (AIDS, abortions, etc).
1 COR 6:13, 18-20 Food is intended for the stomach and the stomach for food, but God will finally end the functions of both and bring them to nothing. The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but is intended for the Lord, and the Lord is intended for the body to save, sanctify and raise it again.
Shun immorality and all sexual looseness; flee from impurity in thought, word or deed. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received as a Gift from God? You are not your own, you were bought with a price. So then, honour God and bring glory to Him in your body.
Single women must learn how to worship God – this will fulfil your need for becoming one with another as a single person. It will help your struggle to walk in a life of purity. Worship will help you get through those difficult times. If you don’t direct your worship toward God, you will direct it elsewhere. That is what Satan hopes for. He comes to steal worship from singles by causing them to fall into sin.
From the beginning, Satan’s whole mission was to steal worship and praise in any form. He comes to steal, kill and destroy your praise and worship to God and the worship in your bedroom.
So, he will give you a headache, cause your husband to be insensitive, influence the kids to cause upset, use the circumstances of the day to wear you down – whatever it takes! He wants to shut down the ministry of worship in your home.
Sex was not just created for multiplying. It was created to release tension, re-centre your soul back to the garden, make the world and all its trouble fade away and reinstate the oneness between man and woman.
It parallels the act of communion, the joining of your spirits as you partake of Christ in the symbolic receiving the bread and the fruit of the vine, absorbing Him fully. In this we are healed, made whole again, saturated with His life within us.
PROV 5: 18, 19 Let your fountain of human life be blessed with the rewards of fidelity, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe, tender, gentle, attractive – let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love.
SONG OF SOL 4:10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my promised bride! How much better is your love than wine! And the fragrance of your ointments than all spices!
SONG OF SOL 7:8-10 I resolve that I will climb the palm tree; I will grasp its branches. Let your breasts be like clusters of the grapevine, and the scent of your breath like apples, and your kisses like the best wine – then the Shulammite interrupted, that goes down smoothly and sweetly for my beloved shepherd, kisses gliding over his lips while he sleeps! She proudly said, I am my beloved’s and his desire is toward me!
Sex is worship; it is communion; it is ministry; it is a marital duty ordained by God. To withhold it in order to punish your mate is sin. Get rid of the offence. Talk, communicate, let your husband know your needs. Influence him to become a better lover. Don’t lecture him! Let the learning lesson be fun. Let God instruct you on how to please one another.
Problems With Intimacy
Several things could be the cause:
- Mental conditioning: When you were growing up, sex was spoken of as a “dirty thing” and you were never taught to see it as a celebration according to God’s design. Sex was a deep, dark secret, something you had to do in marriage, so you would just grind your teeth and bear it when the time came.
- Sexual abuse: God can heal your heart and your mind and make the beauty of His design for sex a reality to you.
- It can also be a physical problem: hormones, etc.
You may be like I was back then, bewildered at how to do things right or to enjoy sex. I have learned to let go, and let God. I am not being spiritual here but you see, I had a lot of bittereness about promises unmet, and things I didn’t like about my husband. But when I asked the Lord to help me forgive, He did and the journey towards healing started.
Credits – Amanda Buys
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