Our role has been defined and redefined over the years depending on which angle you look at it from. However, at the core, we are meant
– To preserve the life of her children.
– To keep them from being devoured by the dragon.
– To nurture purpose.
– To blow on the embers of those little spirits until their hands reach up to God.
– To secure the blessing.
– To guard their inheritance.
– To release them into becoming pillars of destiny.

Motherhood is a precious assignment from God. It has a season and to be candid, with the current fads, many are losing out on this precious responsibility of naturing. However, we ought to enjoy the identity of being a mother. God chose you on purpose for such a time as this.

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of my children. I am humbled that You thought me worthy of watching over someone who is so precious to You. I receive all the wisdom, strength and insight that I need to complete my assignment in a way that will be pleasing to You. I receive guidance in the way that I should take even as I instruct these ones that You have entrusted in my care.
As I commit them to Your care, I thank You that You will keep them safe in all their ways. I receive an increased sense of discernment to recognize the work of the enemy in my children’s lives. I receive the strength to battle against the forces that will seek to pull their hearts away from You, to break their spirits and bend their wills.
When I grow weary, I receive strength for my arms and a renewal of my faith in Your ability to keep us all.
By the authority that You’ve given me over the lives of my children, through Christ, I abort the plans of the enemy and his agenda for destroying the purposes of God in my children. I receive guidance for my prayer life to strategically call forth the destiny of my children. I declare that the inheritance You have reserved for them is secure.
But most of all, Lord, in those times when the going gets tough, I will recognize that children are only part of my reward for answering Your call. I a rm my worth when the world is telling me I have no value, and I find my validation and all that is truly worthwhile in You. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

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RESTORATION OF FEMININITY 12 – Domineering Mothers


Mothers come in all skins but there are the domineering mothers. These are they that become dangerously attached to their sons, replacing their mate with their son.

Their own search for the praises of men and for the love and fulfilment they fail to receive from their mate propels them to enter into emasculating relationships with their sons. This is out of God’s order. Sons are not created to fill the void that you’ve determined your mate won’t fill. Children are not made to be bargaining tools and instruments of manipulation to retaliate against, insult, draw, bind, or repel the man in your life. They are little people who come laden with purpose and endless possibilities that must not be distorted.

Mothers, be living New Testament examples of the type of person you would like your children to become. Speak wisdom into your children, help them to tap into the boundless possibilities within themselves because of the power of God at work within them. Be like Jesus in the home. Give your son the male affirmation he needs in order to be a man and let your daughter grow up affirmed as a woman, knowing she deserves to be loved properly.

This enables a son to “leave and cleave” and a daughter to grasp the concept of walking in oneness with her husband. This builds solid men and women who fulfil their purpose and further the world’s destiny.
This is the only winning strategy ever.

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Nobody messes with a mother’s love. She is deeply nurturing, fiercely protective, and will do anything to ensure the welfare of her children.
Woven into the fibre of every mother’s spirit is the instinct to protect the precious charges God has placed in her care.

Mothers are purveyors of life, created to give it, nurture it, protect it, and release it at the appropriate time to fulfil the purposes of God. The role of a mother is so intensely powerful that the destinies of nations lie in her hands.

The enemy works overtime to distort and destroy the very spirit of motherhood among women today.
REV 12:4 His tail swept across the sky and dragged down a third of the stars and flung them to the earth. And the dragon stationed himself in front of the woman who was about to be delivered, so that he might devour her child as soon as she brought it forth.

Satan has been on the rampage, seeking to exterminate the life of any child who might be a threat to his kingdom. Down through the ages he sought to be one step ahead of Jesus Christ, to cut Him off before He grew to fulfil His purpose,; the salvation of mankind.

From Genesis to Revelation to present day the spirit of assassination has been released against children – our modern-day messiahs whom God has chosen to minister healing, deliverance and restoration in our homes, neighbourhoods, cities and nations.

God has a purpose for every life and honours those who fight to preserve the life of their children in the face of very real obstacles by making a way out of no way for them.

We are here on purpose! No matter how you feel right now, you do have a purpose. You will know if you are fulfiling that purpose or not by the level of fulfilment you feel. People who are walking in their purpose are excited about life.

Those who are not, spend their time wondering what they’re supposed to be doing with themselves or searching for a partner or some other type of outward stimuli to fill the empty space they feel. Satan tries to abort the children – it’s not the life of the child he is after – it is the purpose of God that is within that child that Satan is after. He also comes in other forms of disguise – abuse, neglect, lack of discipline, gangs, drugs, broken homes… anything that will assist him in snuffing out that child’s desire to rise to the occasion of fulfiling his or her purpose.

Mothers fail to see their own value, while children have lost all sense of hope for the future. “I am just a mother”, or “I am just a housewife” – these roles have been stripped of all honour by the dragon yet they are the most profound on this horizon .

Remember: Your role as a mother affects destiny beyond your personal space or home. It is a mother who is usually most spiritually attuned to the possibilities within her child.

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RESTORATION OF FEMININITY 10 – Lessons from the life of Deborah


Judges chapters 4 & 5
She understood her spiritual calling. She was a prophetess – it was her God-ordained purpose. It was the totality of who she was. Therefore, when she spoke, it was with authority.

This had nothing to do with her being a male or female. It had to do with a need God had to expose His heart and His plans to His people. This was a need that God knew Deborah would be able to fulfil.

Deborah also understood her call in the natural as a woman, as a wife. The Bible clearly adds the tile of “wife of Lappidoth” to her list of credits, which means it was significant to God.

Lappidoth means “to shine forth”, which speaks of the fact that her husband had a renowned reputation of his own. Yet he was secure enough to release Deborah to be the great leader that she was. The way she handled the situation with Barak tells us about what went on in her home and the way she interacted with her husband. The text clearly indicates that she was submitted as a wife to her husband and she was blessed because of it. Everyone knew that because her house was in order, they could respect her and follow her.

The people would never have willingly followed Deborah if she were out of line. She was a wife first before she was a judge, a woman before she was a leader. She was under submission first to God and then to her husband.

Some Christian women are confused over this and they wonder why their husbands want nothing to do with God or the church. Do you know why?

Firstly, no man will ever embrace something with which he feels he is in competition. If you are making the man in your life feel that he has to compete with Jesus or your pastor, you need to repent about this right away. The presence of God in your life should make you a better wife to that man. Stop treating the pastor better than you treat your husband. Whether your husband is saved or unsaved, God still holds you responsible and accountable to serve, love and submit to that man (abusive situations are excluded).

Secondly, no man is going to frequent a place in which he feels all the women are in charge. Men are fixers by nature; if there is nothing for them to fix, they move on in search of unconquered territory.

As for those of you who feel stifled and hindered from ministry because of your mate, take heed. God is never going to put your ministry before your care for your husband. That is unscriptural. It would be going against His own Word, and He is not going to do that. Don’t forget that serving your husband is also being obedient to God. Your man is won to God by your behaviour. You are the only example your mate receives of how to submit to God. The way we submit to visible leadership is a good indicator of how we will heed invisible authority.

Thirdly, Deborah understood her positional calling as a servant of God. This is the master hint on how to maintain your femininity in the boardroom or whatever environment makes you feel as if you need to wage a war for equal rights or just humane consideration.
Deborah did her job because God said so. It wasn’t about the men around her. It was about a Kingdom call, not her own personal agenda.

EPH 6: 7, 8 Rendering service readily with goodwill, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that for whatever good anyone does, he will receive his reward from the Lord, whether he is slave or free.

Stop looking at the natural man at your job. Your identity is hidden somewhere higher than the plaque on your door or your company job description. God has ordained you to operate on three levels: In the spirit, as a woman and as His servant.

Your goal should be to fulfil His call on your life and not what you can get out of doing what you do. You can spend all your energy trying to grasp your desires in your human efforts and live a life of frustration – overworked and under appreciated or worse; losing all you’ve laboured for in a blink of an eye. As you get over the praise of men, God will reward you richly for developing a servant’s heart.

Dear Heavenly Father, I receive forgiveness for my misplaced priorities. I receive forgiveness for not celebrating the woman You created me to be. I receive forgiveness for buying into the lie of the world that I am inferior, a voice to be ignored, an empty vessel without honour. I now embrace the truth that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, that I am a marvellous work, that my femininity is a treasure hidden in this earthly vessel.
I rejoice in the gifts You have given me, gifts of influence and wisdom. I stir up the gifts You’ve placed within me and I decree that I am a wise steward of all that You have deposited in my spirit. As I strip off all preconceived ideas and worldly labels, I rest in the assurance of Your salvation, Your authority, Your validation of all that I am in You. I gladly receive instruction to be the woman whom You have fashioned me to be. I receive guidance in the way that You would have me take, to the praise and honour of Your glory. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

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The subject of lesbianism brings shock to some, pain to other, denial to many and the like. However, it is important to be educated in this area because we have women sitting in churches all across this land who are hurting, dying quietly inside because they cannot approach anyone in the church for counsel. They fear the disdain and disapproval of other Christians as they struggle with their urges toward other women.

No one is beyond the hope of healing and deliverance. But you must know the seed that the enemy has planted in order to know how to uproot it.

The first fact that many miss is that lesbianism is born out of a relational void. It is innate within the longing for love gone out of control.

A lot of women have resorted to seeking out each other for comfort, companionship and physical stimulation simply because they have grown weary of trying to make it work with men.

You must understand that lesbianism is not a sexual issue; it is an emotional and spiritual one.

Women connect to one another in a very powerful way because of their nurturing skills. Men do not connect on this level; therefore, the motivation for homosexual behavior comes from a different place – it is based on visual stimulation and sensuality.

A man is able to separate his sexuality from his emotions, but a woman’s emotions and sexuality are closely tied together.

When the men in a women’s world abuse her physically or are incapable of fulfilling her emotionally, the danger exists for the spirit of deception to enter into her life. Thereby she will mistake the emotional fulfillment she receives from other women in her life as a source of eros (sexual) love. This danger grows into a reality if the woman is not aware of the fact that no man or woman can ever completely fulfill her emotionally. Only God can do that.

Women who seek immediate gratification for their longings will fall prey to this deception, and the spirit of lesbianism will grip them. These are women who simply don’t want to try anymore. They are filled with pain and unbelief and have resorted to ungodly means in order to comfort themselves.

Cc – Amanda Buys


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RESTORATION OF FEMININITY 8 – Who is defining you?


After the fall, Adam “named” Eve. A name is a definition of who you are. Today women still crave to be “named” by a man.

NB: You don’t have to wait for a man to define who you are. God has already given you a name!

Isaiah 62:4, 5 You shall no more be termed Forsaken, nor shall your land be called Desolate any more. But you shall be called Hephzibah (My delight is in her) and your land be called Beulah (married); for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married, owned and protected by the Lord. For as a young man marries a virgin, so shall your sons marry you; and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall our God rejoice over you.

Because of God, a woman is a complete woman whether she has a man or not. The Lord is a husband to the husbandless. He’s the One who owns everything you could ever dream of or hope for – the wealthiest Husband in the world!

IS 54:5 For your Maker is your Husband – the Lord of hosts is His name – and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; the God of the whole earth He is called.

If Jesus took all the curses on the tree, then what’s all the fuss about? Unfortunately, just because He wrote the cheque, doesn’t mean that everyone has cashed it. A cheque is just a cheque until the recipient cashes it. Study the Word so you know how to cash that cheque Jesus left for you.

More than ever, we have women killing themselves in the workplace, toiling by the sweat of their brows. This was not God’s original design. Our bodies were never made to be exposed to such an intense measure of stress. The “super woman syndrome” is taking its toll on us in larger and larger waves, thus the rise in female health problems. Notice where many of these problems strike – in the reproductive organs that produce our children, as well as the breasts that nurture our children.

By the time we have finished being “men” at the office, we find it difficult to shift back to being women at home. When we lose ourselves as women and begin forcing ourselves to develop muscles we were not designed to have, our internal and relational system suffers.

Cc – Amanda Buys


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GEN 3: 16-19 To the woman He said, I will greatly multiply your grief and your suffering in pregnancy and the pangs of childbearing; with spasms of distress you will bring forth children. Yet your desire and craving will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. And to Adam He said, Because you have listened and given heed to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, saying, You shall not eat of it, the ground is under a curse because of you; in sorrow and toil shall you eat of the fruits of it all the days of your life. Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth for you, and you shall eat the plants of the field. In the sweat of your face shall you eat bread until you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you shall return.

What was supposed to be easy will now be difficult. The thing that gives you the most joy will also give you the most pain. “Bringing forth” children has proven to be more and more difficult as time goes by. We are waging war with the media, the educational system, other wayward children and outside influences to keep the minds and the spirits of our children pure.

Gen 3:16 Your desire will be for our husband, and he will rule over you. Because of the turning point of your heart to your husband (and, by implication, away from God) for validation, completion and affirmation, he shall rule over you.

This is the case with anything or anyone that we rely on other than God for our sense of self. That thing or person then begins to rule our lives. The love of money, power, food, materialism – you name it – it will rule over you if you let it outrun God in the area of your affections.

This was Eve’s dilemma. It is not just a married woman’s issue. It affects single women, too. Remember: This was a universal curse. All women are included. Look at how women today are ruled by the desire to get a man, have a man and keep a man. How many women have settled for unhappy relationships merely because they’ve come to the sad conclusions that to have some man is better than no man at all?

If we sit back and slouch, the effects of our lack of action have an agile effect on the younger generations and recovery will get harder.

Cc – Amanda Buys


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