Yesterday, it was okay to stay at home and look after your household without feeling guilty. Without carrying the feeling that you are overburdening your husband. It was the culture then.
But I awoke to a different way of life. Today, every woman has got to work to prove her worth. Society has put a bar that many of us are trying particularly hard to reach. Then came women emancipation. I am open to advice, but did women emancipation mean females trying to become masculine? I do not know, but that seems the craze. From trousers for women that are more masculine than faminine, to women feeling the need to prove a point to the men around them.
Don’t get it twisted, I am all for women and their contribution getting recognised and appreciated, but does it have to come at the cost of our families? Do our children have to take the back seat while we ensure we make our mark in whichever world we are in?
Lately, all I hear is an echo of a culture so faded that the sound of a total stay home mother conjures statements such as; ‘you are lazy’ , ‘how about if your man cheats on you?’ ‘are you a baby factory?’ ‘did you go to school just to mop floors and pick after them babies?’
I know that there is a need of independence for every woman, Proverbs 31: 14 talks about a virtous woman who is like a merchant, but Poverbs 31: 27 also says that she looketh well to the ways of her household.
Let us put a balance in all this. No matter how much you push your way up there, as long as you have no self worth, no one will respect you. When your children are the cause of terror in the community, you will turn into the talk of town.
Do what you have to do, nothing should suffer in the name of reaching your ambitions.